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whats your opinion?
Over on the bump, they were discussing your opinion on gender reveal parties. I said I thought they were a fun way to have a gtg with family & close friends. Others felt it was AW-like & a waste of money. I'm failing to see their pov. Thoughts?
Re: whats your opinion?
Well, obviously I won't be doing one since we will be going team green again, but I think they're cute.
However, it's not something we would do even if we were going to find out the gender since all of our family lives over one thousand miles away.
But by no means do I think they are tacky. Of course if they are done tastefully and aren't over the top.
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As long as the couple is asking someone else to throw them a party, who cares? If one of our friends wants to invite us over for cake and food, I'm game. I think some people spend too much time getting all riled up and offended by everything in the world that they wouldn't personally choose. Whatever happened to being happy for the people you care about? I think it's the ones that get offended by silly things like this that are a bit too self-involved.
ETA: That should be "isn't asking someone else to throw them a party."
Eh.. I wouldn't do it personally. But I'm also one of those people who believes "no one cares about you being pregnant as much as you do" (you can also insert "your wedding" in place of you being pregnant).
We might be finding out gender around Christmas so I was thinking of doing something fun at Christmas Eve dinner like having one of those cakes that you cut into to reveal the sex or opening a present or something but just for my close family. I wouldn't throw an extra party.. especially since people will probably want to throw us a baby shower and that is a lot of work and money in itself.
If someone invited me to a party like that, I wouldn't be offended or necessarily think it's tacky - I just wouldn't have one for myself.
Different strokes for different folks. I think its kind of gag-worthy, but I don't even want kids, so my opinion isn't worth much.
If someone invited me to one, yes, i'd go. but i don' tsee myself throwing myself such a party. I hate being the center of attention. i've told my bff on numerous occasions that if i got pregnant i'd rather buy everything myself than to have to have a babyshower.
I didn't say it was tacky - i just said I wouldn't do it. ... I, unfortunately, had an engagement party. Trust me, if it had been up to me, that wouldn't have happened. Of course I could have refused, but if you know anything about the relationship or lack there of, that I have with my MIL then you know refusing would have made the situation 1 million times worse.
I agree with that about "your wedding" but disagree about pregnancy. Just wait until you start showing, you will never have a normal conversation again. Everyone from family to close friends to aquaintances to your bank teller wants to touch the belly. And no one says a casual "hey what's up" anymore, it's "hi, how are you feeling?" and they genuinely want to know your answer. I bartend and am really popping out now and I get asked the same 3 questins by 85% of the people who come to the bar "how far are you? do you know what you're having? do you have any names?". My UPS lady yesterday. The cable guy today. Everyone wants to talk about it, it's wild! I'm not complaining, it's fun and flattering, I'm just surprised at how much really changes.
I think the gender reveal party is cool. I always said if I got pregnant I would do the party where you give a sealed envelope to a baker and they make a cake with white frosting, then you cut the pink or blue cake with your family and close friends and all find out together. In reality, like many of us, my family is so spread out that instead they all instead got an email or text. I think some people just spend too much time judging. What is it going to hurt to have your family and close friends come over for cake? I'll have some cake
I agree. It's not something we would do because we enjoy being Team Green, but if we weren't I think this is a fun way to get family and close friends together to celebrate. I have a good friend who is doing the cake reveal at her shower next month. I think it's great!
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If you are throwing the party, what's the big deal?
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Thats what I thought. I feel like maybe I don't have the same idea on what a gender reveal party is as everybody else. Maybe I'm missing something.
In my head, it goes like this: parents to be invite their parents, siblings (& their families), their grandparents, a few close friends over for some cake & refreshments. Maybe the hosts will serve light appetizers as well... Totally optional. Parents to be reveal baby's gender through the color of the cake/cupcakes/whatever. Everybody's thrilled, guests go home. The end.
There's no gifts, just a get together.
Shouldn't close family & friends be excited & supportive of the newest family member? I don't see how this puts extra attention on the parents to be?
I also find it a little more fun than calling up 20 people & saying 'hey we're having a ___. Got to go call so & so now, bye.' I also find it FAR more appropriate than announcing it on fb.
I don't mind them. If we lived close to our families, we may have done something casual - have our immediate families over to dinner and then do the cake thing or something like that. Nothing crazy, no formal invites, no gifts, probably not even friends, just family. I think our families would have gotten a kick out of it. But we live a million miles away, so it doesn't matter.
Actually, after spending this whole afternoon on the phone with everyone sharing our news, a gender reveal party sounds pretty appealing - just tell everybody at once.
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I had never even heard of this until just a couple of months ago when someone I knew did it. It was just her family and a couple of close friends. Her & her H did not know the gender until the party either, which I could never do. If I could have waited I would have done this. However I am not so patient, so we did a modify version.
I LOVE LOVE LOVE the idea. I don't see how it's a waste of money or anything. It's you and H getting together with family and close friends...when is that ever a waste of money?!
I disagree! Yes, not even one cares, but I am 100% sure that some of my very good friends care as much as I do.
Ditto!!
I'm doing one, a small family and friends get together for dinner and a cake (courtesy of MIL). We waited for this baby and everyone did too (our family and friends and even coworkers who constantly asked "are you pregnant yet?" which got real old and annoying when youre not sure yourself shen youll be getting pregnant either). Whenever we come from a doctor's appt it's always a big deal because each time we get reassured our baby is growing fine. The gender reveal is one way to celebrate life and to deliver great news. I too have never heard of this until recently when Jessica (blossom) did one and immediately I'm convince to do one when we get pregnant.
I agree with Sara, everyone do care and always ask questions even the ones you just bump into at a grocery store and I too don't mind, its exciting that someone other than family and friends finally notice I'm pregnant not just someone with a big belly lol. Everyone tries to give their guesses as to what the baby's gender would be, they even have some pointers on how they came to that guess. Some even make bets lol so a gender reveal would be a great excuse to have a get together and get everyone excited if their guesses were right. There are no gifts involved, just a nice time with people we love and loves us too.
We're getting little balloons in either pink or blue and have it in a box during dinner we will ask everyone to mark their guesses and we'll open the box to reveal the color. We were going to do the cake but due to time constraint we decided to do balloons instead. We're doing the reveal same day we find out.
>> Its not like you are asking for anything from anyone!
When we get an invitation to go to someone's house for a party, even if it's a casual phone call to "come over next Saturday," we're not going empty-handed. It's not appropriate to go to dinner at someone's house without a bottle of wine or something, it's not appropriate to stay overnight at someone's house without a gift for the house or something. So when we get an invitation to go to a gender-reveal party, it's a gift request. Even if you don't "mean" it to be.
This is ridiculous. It is your choice to feel that you must always bring a gift every single time you enter someone else's house. The vast majority of people do not do this nor expect this of their guests. Especially close friends and family. By your logic, every single time a person hosts a dinner party/super bowl gathering/bbq, it could be construed as a gift grab. That's an insane and very judgmental way of viewing someone opening up their home and hospitality to you.