An important article for us all to read

wldktz10

Just in case you ladies haven't seen this, I think this is really important for us all (and the guys in our life) to read:

 http://www.huffingtonpost.com/yashar-hedayat/a-message-to-women-from-a_1_b_958859.html

Passanie

I've totally experienced this "gaslighting" with my former boss.

I had a really difficult boss a few months back and he was hounding me relentlessly and disrespectfully on one point about my work. I finally pushed back a little bit. Later on, we were talking about it in a meeting with his boss and he gave me a big speech about how he "just couldn't have outbursts like that in the workplace" and how it was distracting to other people.

Outbursts? Dude, anybody who knows me knows I'm pretty freaking soft spoken and I was terrified of pushing back to my boss, so I wasn't screaming or anything. I'm pretty sure the person at the next desk didn't hear me. But if he can characterize my legitimate complaint as inappropriate, I look bad, he looks like the good guy.

wldktz10

Yeah, I have a friend who always calls girls "dramatic" which is pretty annoying because he's usually more dramatic than we are.

hannikan

wldktz10:

Yeah, I have a friend who always calls girls "dramatic" which is pretty annoying because he's usually more dramatic than we are.

Isn't it funny how people accuse others of doing the very thing that they are guilty of? Maybe funny isn't quite the right word... I certainly don't have a problem with this with DH. He's the hot head and he knows it. His dad and mom were the same way, his dad ranted and his mom was calm(er). But not in a scary way, they just get worked up and are passionate debaters. DH's always had a lot of respect for his mom and doesn't patronize women even when he disagrees with them. I do remember a guy I knew in college trying to shut girls down by saying they were too emotional or dramatic. He was super sexist anyway so I always shut him down.

wldktz10

hannikan:

wldktz10:

Yeah, I have a friend who always calls girls "dramatic" which is pretty annoying because he's usually more dramatic than we are.

Isn't it funny how people accuse others of doing the very thing that they are guilty of?

 I know, it's insane. What's worse is a lot of times these people refuse to admit it.