Trouble in Paradise
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Re: Confused.
I don't know. There's nothing here that shocks me. He is an athlete, was at a party, some girl who maybe knows who he is got her picture taken sitting in his lap. It's not like someone took a picture of him getting a lap dance; nor is he kissing her, groping her breasts, feeling up her skirt, etc. If this is really all it is, you overreacted. If he's a good, kind, faithful loving man to you, and this is all that happened, you overreacted; at which point he started acting like an assshole at your assholiness. Not a good response, but not one I'm willing to say is a huge deal. This is a party that the two of you were going to attend together, so I'm pretty sure it's not some wild strip fest with free hookers all around, or you would not have been planning on going.
Now maybe you have previous good cause to doubt his fidelity. If you know he's already cheated, I can see being pretty unhappy with a picture like this, and being less than happy with his response. But from what you've posted so far? Sounds like you got superpissy and jealous and bitchy over an innocent picture.
The one thing I would be perturbed about is the fact that he got drunk to the point where he can't remember what he did and needs pictures to confirm. I'm all for drinking and adult fun, but there is a limit. Someone sitting on his lap wouldn't necessarily both me, it depends on the circumstances. But I also imagine his reaction depended on how you brought it up. I could see explaining that you know he thinks its harmless but it makes you uncomfortable for ____ reason. That's a whole lot different than saying, OMG how could you let another girl sit in your lap.
This is kind of like porn in my book. I don't care if DH does it, some people care if their DHs do which is fine. But its up to them to articulate to their husbands why it bothers them/why they find it disrespectful and for the husband to be ok with following that.
Thank you, ladies.
Your comments did help a lot.
I appreciate your input.