Holiday Baby if You Could Avoid It?

briezygator

So I was bored yesterday and did one of those online fertility calcultors that gives you your most fertile days and then a potential due date.  I got my results and I had to start laughing.  Three of my possible due dates were Oct 31, Nov 26, and Dec 25 (aka, Halloween, just after Thanksgiving, and Christmas Day).  I know that these are only potential due dates and not at all anything set in stone, but it got me thinking (and since I'm bored at work I figured I'd post about it!).  If you could plan to avoid having a baby on or around a holiday, would you?  I know that I really shouldn't care when I'd have a baby and just focus instead on getting KU but I figured it'd be good discussion

Leg de Nico

I would avoid visibly carrying the baby through the summer.  Once that belly pops, it doesn't stop growing.  And being the most pregnant at the height of the summer is miserable.  Take my word for it.  

jen812

My last m/c had a dd of 12/25. I was thinking how much that would stink for the kid. 

MH acts like a child a lot. He gets upset because his birthday is Feb 17th. Then there's Valentines day right before & our anniversary is the 20th. He feels as if he gets screwed & I don't give his birthday the attention it deserves. Ha.  

Loskadoodle

I would avoid christmas but not the other 2 but once you start trying you just wanna be pregnant if you don't care when they're born

Regina+Phalange

Yeah I would avoid Christmas but not the other two.  The main thing I would want to avoid is being in my third trimester during the summer. 

jennifer80808

I used to think, oh I'll avoid holidays, or being pregnant in the summer, etc.  But now I just really want to be pregnant.  If I got pregnant again this month I'd be due in August.  Not ideal, but I'll sure take it!

bparkhur

jen812:

My last m/c had a dd of 12/25. I was thinking how much that would stink for the kid. 

MH acts like a child a lot. He gets upset because his birthday is Feb 17th. Then there's Valentines day right before & our anniversary is the 20th. He feels as if he gets screwed & I don't give his birthday the attention it deserves. Ha.  

We have a tentative c section date of 2/14, so I was wondering if it would be a big deal for a guy to have his birthday on Valentine's day. It will likely get moved up, but it has had me thinking...

babygator15

My birthday is Christmas day.  It does kinda suck!

MrsChelseaP09

My brothers birthday is the day after Christmas. He gets screwed every year on gifts. lol.

Gator_Bride08

Leg de Nico:

I would avoid visibly carrying the baby through the summer.  Once that belly pops, it doesn't stop growing.  And being the most pregnant at the height of the summer is miserable.  Take my word for it.  

This. 

blondeG8Rbride

I've always thought that I'd try to avoid having a baby around Christmas.  H and I both have birthdays in January and that stinks as it is.  

amellis2

Leg de Nico:

I would avoid visibly carrying the baby through the summer.  Once that belly pops, it doesn't stop growing.  And being the most pregnant at the height of the summer is miserable.  Take my word for it.  

Word.  I still ended up getting KU in October 2010.

I wouldn't mind a holiday baby.  I think family members wouldn't "put two gifts/celebrations together."  My mom was born 2 weeks before t-giving, and my grandmother 3 days before Christmas, and we always made sure to celebrate each separately.  

briezygator

Lol, I didn't even think about being pregnant during summer, oops.  Yeah, I'm sure that's not going to be fun, but if we start trying to get KU now I guess there's no way to really avoid it.

Good point about not worrying so much about Halloween and Thanksgiving, but I definitely wanted to avoid a December baby as much as possible.  Both my BIL, SIL (his wife), and their daughter all have birthdays in December all within three weeks of Christmas and I figured that's more than enough birthdays for that month in the family.  Plus with DH's in January that's a lot of gift buying in a two month span!

briezygator

jennifer80808:

I used to think, oh I'll avoid holidays, or being pregnant in the summer, etc.  But now I just really want to be pregnant.  If I got pregnant again this month I'd be due in August.  Not ideal, but I'll sure take it!

This is what I try to rationalize with myself (and what DH has said).  At the end of the day, what happens happens and as long as it's a healthy baby, who cares when it's born.

briezygator

babygator15:

My birthday is Christmas day.  It does kinda suck!

Bummer Babygator!  Sorry to bring up a sore subject

MrsChelseaP09:

My brothers birthday is the day after Christmas. He gets screwed every year on gifts. lol.

Yeah, DH's brother is just over a week before Christmas and even then he said it still kind of sucked being that close to the holiday because he felt like he got gipped too, lol.

amellis2:

I wouldn't mind a holiday baby.  I think family members wouldn't "put two gifts/celebrations together."  My mom was born 2 weeks before t-giving, and my grandmother 3 days before Christmas, and we always made sure to celebrate each separately.  

Hm, good point.  I guess you'd just have to make a conscious effort to make sure that you celebrate each thing separately.

MrsChelseaP09

My mom always pulled the "This was expensive, this is also your birthday present" lmao.

sara76

I always said I would never purposely have a baby near Christmas.  Whoops!  My due date is 1/1 but if they have to schedule a c/s it will be at 39 weeks and within days of the holiday.  At least we will save money on gifts, OMG I'm totally joking.  We will always make sure the baby has her own special day no matter what day she shares her birthday with. 

Gator_Bride08

sara76:

I always said I would never purposely have a baby near Christmas.  Whoops!  My due date is 1/1 but if they have to schedule a c/s it will be at 39 weeks and within days of the holiday.  At least we will save money on gifts, OMG I'm totally joking.  We will always make sure the baby has her own special day no matter what day she shares her birthday with. 

LOL! We do a "half birthday" for Hannah, or at least we did this year. MIL always makes sure to go out of her way to do two different celebrations for her. It's cute. I think it's neat to have a birthday around Christmas/New Years so I guess I am in the minority.  

SouthSeasBride

My birthday is 3 weeks before x-mas.  I realize it's not right on, before or after xmas, but I have never felt that my own special day was in jeopardy... 

I had actually never thought about this when we were TTC, and it won't ever be an issue since our family is complete

mrs.jenRN

I wouldn't try to avoid a holiday baby. You just never know how hard it will be to TTC. I would always think "what if we had just tried during that month....would I have gotten pg?" My friend was TTC for over 2 years and her son was born the day after Christmas. She was so happy to have him and makes sure his birthday is special. I actually sent him some presents in July so he doesn't have to get them back to back

Bre2Be

To me it doesn't matter what month or day the baby is born.  My husband's birthday is a few days before Christmas and we always just make a point to have a separate birthday celebration.  I agree about the summer time though.  I am 6 and a half months pregnant now and think I would be miserable if it were July!