FFFC and AWs

WendyToo

Ugh, TJ, I totally get that. I saw some of the guys who did a last motorcycle ride for my dads funeral and I got a little weepy when they went by as part of the patriot guard, but for reals, a girl we went to high school posted FIFTY ONE related FB posts in the last week. Fifty fukcing one. That's what I was irritated with. 

ShansBride

AW:  M is now potty trained and it was super easy!  She just decided she didn't want to wear diapers anymore and that was that.

FFFC:  I have a friend who is always bragging about how "advanced" her daughter (who is just a few months older than M) is.   Her DD is not potty trained yet and I could tell she was mad that M was since she is younger.  It gave me a sick sense of satisfaction, not that M was "more advanced' or something than her kid, but  that she was mad about it. 

FFFC 2:  Spin off of Wendy and TJ's post is that is sort of pisses me off a lot when people who didn't really even know someone who died act like their whole life is going to change because someone they never met/hardly knew is gone.  I think is is still nice to honor the person who died, but acting like you are totally heartbroken when you will wake up the next day and go about life like normal makes me mad.

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BoyMom21:

WendyToo:

BoyMom21:

H and I aren't agreeing on the kid situation again. I'm back to not wanting another one at all. This is likely to cause problems and end in marriage counseling...blah. I can't just say "no more kids, my body my decision!!" with him because he's seriously the most involved and wonderful dad & helpful husband. I feel selfish.

I don't see it as overriding him so much as BOTH parents need to be on board for more. If it was the other way around it wouldn't be your decision, your body, right? 

I just know I'll feel guilty and awful if I continue to feel the same way I do now. I want a 3 year old...not a newborn! He said he's open to discussing adoption if that's what would make it easier on me. My concern is my PPD returning. And when we got married we agreed 2 kids would be perfect...so I feel like I'm changing my mind on an important agreement. He's not making me feel guilty or anything. He just doesn't understand why I don't want to experience it again.

I totally understand where you are coming from.  DH and I have gone round-and-round on whether or not to start IF treatments again.  It's something you both need to be on the same page for and not give into because of guilt.  Yes, you made an agreement before you got married but you also probably didn't anticipate dealing with PPD.  Be aware that adoptive mothers can suffer from post-adoption depression, which is not caused by the hormones mom's with  PPD experience, but from the disruption of your routine, lack of sleep, fear of your child being taken away, legal issues, bonding issues, etc.

I hope that you and T can come to an agreement you both can live with. 

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AW:  I learned to crochet about a month ago when my future SIL came to visit.  Since then I've made four scarves and just completed a koala bear beanie for my nephew. I feel so domesticated now lol.  

BoyMom21

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BoyMom21:

WendyToo:

BoyMom21:

H and I aren't agreeing on the kid situation again. I'm back to not wanting another one at all. This is likely to cause problems and end in marriage counseling...blah. I can't just say "no more kids, my body my decision!!" with him because he's seriously the most involved and wonderful dad & helpful husband. I feel selfish.

I don't see it as overriding him so much as BOTH parents need to be on board for more. If it was the other way around it wouldn't be your decision, your body, right? 

I just know I'll feel guilty and awful if I continue to feel the same way I do now. I want a 3 year old...not a newborn! He said he's open to discussing adoption if that's what would make it easier on me. My concern is my PPD returning. And when we got married we agreed 2 kids would be perfect...so I feel like I'm changing my mind on an important agreement. He's not making me feel guilty or anything. He just doesn't understand why I don't want to experience it again.

I totally understand where you are coming from.  DH and I have gone round-and-round on whether or not to start IF treatments again.  It's something you both need to be on the same page for and not give into because of guilt.  Yes, you made an agreement before you got married but you also probably didn't anticipate dealing with PPD.  Be aware that adoptive mothers can suffer from post-adoption depression, which is not caused by the hormones mom's with  PPD experience, but from the disruption of your routine, lack of sleep, fear of your child being taken away, legal issues, bonding issues, etc.

I hope that you and T can come to an agreement you both can live with. 

Thanks for the info--I didn't think that I'd have issues if we adopted but it's good to know that it's still a possibility. At least I'll be prepared if that's the route we decide. I hope you and N are able to make a decision as well...it sucks to be in limbo and not know which path to choose.