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Kids' Sports
Has anyone here ever coached a kids' team (maybe at the Y or at church, etc.)?
The strangest thing just happened. BM (H's ex) just called H to see if he knew of anyone who might be interested in coaching SD's basketball team at the Y. H told her that I played basketball for about 10 years throughout school, and that I'd talked about being interested in doing something like that in the past. I do love the sport, and I like kids, but I'm suuuper hesitant to volunteer for this one.
Anyone have any experience in this area?
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Re: Kids' Sports
Sorry; I should've explained myself.
I guess I'm hesitant for a few reasons:
1) BM and her family will be at every game, so I'll be super self-conscious. It's awkward enough to go to games and see them there, it'll be weirder when I feel like they're watching my every move.
2) I don't really know how to handle SD when it comes to sports. She's usually the kid who's crying, ten minutes in, for no good reason. BM ends up holding her the rest of the game, and it's kind of ridiculous. Team sports would be so beneficial for her, if her mom wouldn't coddle. I don't know how I'd react to that, as a coach. As her SM, it sort of makes my blood boil.
3) I don't really know the first thing about coaching 6-year-olds. I mean, it's not like I'd be helping them with their three-pointers. I guess it'd be more babysitting than coaching, but I'd want to feel like they were learning *something*. I'm sure I could just Google it...
I agree. Doesn't sound like the best fit.
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Yeah, don't do it. And ream your H for volunteering you for something before asking if it was okay.
You're right... I probably shouldn't consider it. On the flip side, I'm always looking for ways to bond with SD. I definitely know more about sports than anyone else in her family, and long ago I worked at the Y and loved it.
I should clarify - H didn't really volunteer me. He told her I might be interested, and that he'd talk to me. I know he really wants me to do it, though. He sees it as a good opportunity for me to have an influence on SD, which I don't disagree with, I just think the chance of it going poorly might outweigh the chance of it going well.
Instead of coaching, why don't you take her out to a basketball court and give her some one-on-one time during a weekend she's with you? I think that would not only be beneficial to her, but it would also be good bonding time.
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I like Ginger's idea. Take her out to the court and just have some fun. And I almost immediately regretted typing, "and then ream your H..." so I gotcha.
I co-coached 9 and 10 year olds at the Y last year and am not coaching this season but A is playing on a team. His coaches are amazing- a husband and wife. Would it maybe be something you guys could do as a team? That way, you could leave most of the individual comments to SD to her dad, and it wouldn't be so much pressure on you alone. Just an idea....
Against everyone's (good) advise, I'm leaning toward going for it, maybe with pinksprkl's suggestion of having H as assistant coach. I have so few chances to really bond with SD, it seems like I should try this out. Of all the things she's been interested in, I kind of feel like basketball is my thing to help her with. If it goes horribly, it's only for two months. And I'll know not to do it again. And I can at least know that I put myself out there and tried to be more involved.
(Famous last words?)