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A Present from 2nd Trimester. :)
Silly Rabbit, Gaming is for kids!
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Seriously though. Rather than berate him and act like his mommy (or jailer) she should probably have a rational, adult conversation about his gaming habit with him. No one likes to be treated like a toddler. Its not like she didn't know about his gaming habits before she married him and/or decided to have a kid with the man.
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Re: A Present from 2nd Trimester. :)
An old room mate of mine used to game like this, he never had a gf until he realized that he needed to spend time with his gf in order to keep her around. lol.
she sounds like a hormonal biatch...geez.
nagging about gaming in 2nd tri?! the girl needs to get laid stat...maybe she would if she didnt chop her husbands nutz off.
H and I aren't parents yet but we've talked in detail about things will change when that time comes. He loves his video games. Before he starts any game he asks me if I need anything and tells me that it'll take x amount of time. If we are on a schedule he'll play a game he can quit at any time so I'm not worried. I know I'm first and any kids we have would be too.
It's all about communication and compromise.
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Okay. I know a lot of gamers. I probably know only gamers. You guys know this about me.
I don't know a SINGLE GAMER who wouldn't notice their spouse yelling "FIRE" from the kitchen. I imagine she exaggerated that. At least, I hope so.
Maybe the people I know are more responsible than average, I don't know. But I know that one of DH's friends' wives just had a baby. He was playing Battlefield 3 nightly on Steam up until, like, a day before the baby was born. He's been online ONCE since then, fairly late at night, and not for very long. Probably because, you know, he's busy being a dad.
DH has to do a lot for me a lot of the time because of my health issues. Not once have I had to ask him more than once because he was too engrossed in his game, and he really does play for 5+ hours a day most days. There have been times, when it wasn't urgent, that he would ask if he could get to the next checkpoint, or finish that level, or whatever, and I would be fine with that. But at the very least he would pause the game and help me with whatever I needed.
Oh, and the woman who said that her DH couldn't hear her when she fell out of the tub? I'm pretty sure that it's because she was on the top level, and he was in the basement. Basements are generally sort of sound-proof anyway, and there were TWO LEVELS in between them. I don't think he couldn't hear you because he was too engrossed in his game. Keep your phones with you and make sure he has a baby monitor with him.
What are these women doing to unwind? Do they not have hobbies?
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I briefly dated a guy who was so addicted to this role playing Star Wars computer game that he would stay up all night playing and didn't realize how late it was. He got fired because he would get so into the game that he would miss an entire shift because he lost track of time.
I have a feeling that perhaps she screams and nags at him all of the time and that is why he ignores her instead of the game...
I am a gamer and I continued to play after DD was born. To me it is important for us to have time as a family and for DH and I both to have equal downtime. We had that discussion before having kids. I don't care what he does with his downtime and he doesn't care what I do. We try not to disturb the other during our downtime.
There are so many issues with this post. The this is how it will be attitude, the disrespectful way in which she presented it, the boasting about her husband's anger, and laughing at his reaction. She's posting as he's trying to yell at her in response? Seriously mature. Jesus.
does your H work? If so, when do you two ever interact?
home by 5:30 and gaming for 5+ hours means he finishes at 10:30pm at the earliest--and that is without a break for dinner. I just couldn't imagine.
OP sounds like a bratty teenager, but this would drive me nuts as well. I guess that's why I wouldn't even date someone who is that into video games.
Mark my words... even with the Xbox gone, a guy like that wont really ever be that helpful around the house. If the Xbox is gone, it'll be something else. Or else he'll be gone from their house for hours on end to play someone else's Xbox. This is why you just don't have kids with a man who chooses video games over a FIRE in their house. The end.
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Oh, schwa...
Yes, he works. He works 8 to 4. He gets home at about 4:15 (at the latest). We interact while he's playing the games. It's not like he's a zombie that can't talk or pay any attention to me while he's playing. Sometimes we play together. Sometimes I'm playing something else. Sometimes I'm wandering around the internet. Regardless of what I am doing, we are still communicating and spending time together. And sometimes, OMG, he isn't playing games at all!
There are breaks for meals, of course. And then we play some more.
Gaming is our main entertainment source. Some people like dancing, some like TV, some like...I don't know...going to breweries. Or wine tastings. Or...other things. Gaming is just as valid as any of that stuff.