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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Monday random thoughts
My landlady STILL hasn't cashed my November rent check. For cereal? The month is half-over, people. I hate when it looks like I have more money than I really do.
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Re: Monday random thoughts
I can't see DIF anymore--well, not to the extent that he wants to see me. I think he wants a wife/stepmom for his kids like yesterday and I'm just not at a point in my life where I want that...or can give that to someone.
I was going to wait until after Thanksgiving but after a 6:45 "good morning" text followed by a 7:20 "what's wrong?" text, I'm going to have to lay it on the line sooner. I enjoy spending time with him, but his "I LOVE holding you" and "I LOVE spending time with you" is much more than I can handle or want right now...especially since we've only been seeing each other for a month. Oh, did I mention that last Wednesday he texted to remind me that we had met 1 month ago that day?
This stuff is great when you are ready for it, but awful if you are not! Especially one month in!
With my BF it was "I LIKE spending time with you." Then 3 months in it was "I LOVE spending time with you". That timeline worked for me, but I wanted something more serious.
You will feel better once you rip the band-aid off. GL!
Yeah, it doesn't help that the past 2 weekends we've spent every day together. I really enjoy his company but probably because it's better than spending the weekends alone...and we have really great sexual chemistry. Oh well
I think I need to take a solid week off from the gym. I do the same workout, eat the same food, and sleep at the same time pretty much every day. I feel like I need to mix it up a little for a week or so.
I have stopped feeling like I need to excuse myself for things. Two examples:
1. A co-worker a few weeks ago one morning asked me if I was ok when there was absolutely nothing wrong (I hate this). Usually, I would try to find some BS answer like 'I'm tired' or 'oh, yeah I had a long night' or something. As I started saying 'oh, I'm fine I'm just...' I stopped myself and said 'no, no excuse, nothing is wrong'. That probably didn't make sense, but I will write example number 2 anyway.
2. The same co-worker just offered me some gingerbread. I politely refused and she asked why and asked if I was feeling sick or something. I started to explain why, but then I stopped and just said 'because I don't want any'.
Wow, that was pointless, but I got so far into writing it I figured I would finish. Sorry.
There is a really smokin' photo of me on FB from the fundraising gala that BF and I went to on Saturday...unfortunately, he is not quite so photogenic. So I'm bummed that it was a great pic of me but not so much of him.
I won a wine and cheese gift basket at said fundraising gala! Yay! I never win anything, so this was very exciting.
PIP!!
No, he usually says he LOVES these things, doesn't text them, but the word itself is capitalized in my mind. I talked to him about needing to take things slow and how I need some space and he's like, "Ok, just tell me and I'll stop" but it's more than that...the fact that I need him to stop shows that we're on 2 different pages right now. It sucks but he deserves someone who wants what he does. I don't have time to see him until next weekend--am I a douche to talk to him about this over the phone?
Good lord, that would annoy me to no end. I cannot stand it when people get clingy like that so quickly. What did he ever do before he met you just one month ago? To me it is desperate and not a good sign. I am not of the mindset that someone who's in a great place in their life puts that much stock into a "relationship" of one month.
Congrats! It's fun to win things... D doesn't photograph well either... kind of a shame.
Here's my random thought...the "What makeup do you love" post below for some reason reads to me as something related to love making...I know that's not what it says or what its about, but that's what pops into my mind every single time I see it. Clearly, we can all see now where my mind is lately.
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
Dear baby jesus god I am exhausted. I got written up at work for leaving early Thursday because BF's sister passed away and she's not my immediate family and I didn't have enough time to take off. Sorry work, he lives with me, it was important. So we drove up to Michigan to visit his family this weekend, and because I couldn't take time off, I got out of his car this morning at 7:15am and went to work for 8am. I cannot keep my eyes open.
I'm pretty worried about BF because he's not doing too well with his sister's death. It was unexpected. I'm just trying to give him space and time and let him know I'm here for him.