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BF's bday

I am sick. My brain is not functioning. Therefore I need opinions.

BF's bday is coming up. His mother has made some comments that she doesn't know what to get him. I love her to death but she can be a bit overbearing at times. Kind of comes off as "I know my son better than you"--which she does, however, I sleep with the guy so....

Anyway. There is something that I think he would like for his bday. I already have a gift for him. So do I call his mom with this suggestion or just keep my mouth shut seeing as she hasn't asked for help?

ETA: The gift idea is tickets to an upcoming event so I can't really "save" the idea. And I already got him something so we will just end up buying the tickets ourselves if he doesn't get the ticket as a gift. Also, his mom and I have a good relationship so I am not worried about calling her or anything. I just don't want her to feel like I am trying to play the authority on him or anything.

2011 Races
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04

Re: BF's bday

  • I wouldn't offer unless specifically asked. I usually come up with a lot of ideas for FI and just kind of keep a mental note of them for future bdays and xmas presents.
  • imagedoglove:
    I wouldn't offer unless specifically asked. I usually come up with a lot of ideas for FI and just kind of keep a mental note of them for future bdays and xmas presents.

    I usually do this too but it is tickets for an upcoming event. Can't really save that idea so that is why I was thinking about calling his mom.

    2011 Races
    3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
    5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
    5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
    5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
    7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
    10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
  • i need to know what you are planning on getting him. ETA: sorry didn't see above post

     

    and i wouldn't give away your gift idea unless you wanted her to steal it and a whole dramatic thing.  in fact, i would hint around to her that he's been wanting something in a completely different category than the thing you are getting him.... kwim? ;) 

  • imagekristinhart511:

    and i wouldn't give away your gift idea unless you wanted her to steal it and a whole dramatic thing.  in fact, i would hint around to her that he's been wanting something in a completely different category than the thing you are getting him.... kwim? ;) 

    I'm not getting the tickets for him. I already got him something else. So we will just end up buying the tickets to go if he doesn't get his as a gift. Telling his mom wouldn't mess anything up, KWIM?

    2011 Races
    3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
    5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
    5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
    5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
    7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
    10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
  • Then just call her and say something like, "I know you mentioned that you were having trouble coming up with a gift for BF--did you still need some ideas?  I know he was planning on getting tix to this event."

    If she says she figured it out already, then drop it.  If you have a good relationship, no harm in calling...

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  • imageMintChocoChip:

    Then just call her and say something like, "I know you mentioned that you were having trouble coming up with a gift for BF--did you still need some ideas?  I know he was planning on getting tix to this event."

    If she says she figured it out already, then drop it.  If you have a good relationship, no harm in calling...

    Might be a good way to try to improve the relationship with her, too, if it's not great to start out with!

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