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WHUUTT?!?!
I hate the fact that I always write about the bad things that happen in my life on here, honestly, good things happen to me too, I'm not just all doom and gloom. 
But here is another weird that just made me say "WHUT??"
As you can see by my ticker, it is one month and one week and four days until our big three week holiday. Very exciting stuff!!! Except that my friend Janine text me last and said she isn't going to come and wants to know what she owes people for it. She is citing money troubles, but since she has already paid about $2500 for flights (non-refundable & non-transferable) and is offering to pay the $1400 for her portion of the accommodation and other group events we have already booked, there isn't really much left to pay after that. Only a couple of dinners out and whatever shopping people want to do. I have booked accommodation with kitchens, as we planned to cook and keep the costs down.
It's not fair for her to pay for a holiday she isn't taking, but I can't ask the other people in the group to absorb her costs. Everyone has budgeted very carefully over the last 8 months for this trip. So after a couple of minutes of thought I said DH and I would take care of her part. Not that we are flush, but it just seemed the right thing to do. And of course I said we would be happy to pay and have her come anyway.
Am I missing something here? I haven't seen her in a couple of weeks, she has been a bit withdrawn and grumpy, and instead of ringing me, she text, and cancelled the three week trip of a lifetime.
WHUUT?!?!?! Should I try and talk to her about it? Or just leave it? I should mention that I am TOTALLY gutted that she might not come. It just makes me want to cry.
Re: WHUUTT?!?!
I feel like maybe she's not sharing something with you. Maybe it IS money troubles, and she waited til the last minute because she hoped things would change in time...but considering she's already paid for the bulk of things, and by comparison all that's left is food, that's weeeiiiird she's backing out.
Especially since you've been planning this for a long time, and again, she's already paid for most of it!
Is she single, and perhaps has met somebody she doesn't want to "abandon" for that long so early in her relationship?? Some people get clingy/nervous like that. Or is something wrong with her family that she wouldn't discuss?
It really probably is just money panic with the onslaught of holiday shopping and the whole gambit. But it's way irresponsible of her to dump this so late in the game. Nice of you and DH to cover her...VERY nice. :-/ I hope it doesn't stress you guys out, since you're house hunting and all.
Sorry Kath.
I have a feeling that she might be feeling a bit depressed about not enjoy her job (lots of us can relate to that), and being single, and lots of other stuff, and I just wonder if she hasn't just crawled into a little cave of self pity. Have sent her a nice email and made some positive facebook comments and she seems to be responding, which she wasn't before.
Suggested I go around and see her on Saturday, and she said that's okay, so I'll keep you posted if it all turns out to be okay. Fingers crossed she realises she still wants to come.
That seriously, royally sucks.
Maybe it's money troubles as in, she can't afford to take all that time off from work AND pay for the trip? Would it mean a missed mortgage payment for her if she didn't work those weeks, or something similar? If she's a good friend (and she sounds like she is, she was going on this adventure with you!) I would definitely ask what's going on, not because you're concerned about the money but ask why the abrupt change of heart.