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Is there an age where you side eye someone for....?
Re: Is there an age where you side eye someone for....?
I'm 31, single and have no plans on getting married or having kids. I know that it's just not for me.
I'm curious why you would feel this way. I will admit that a few people said something similar to me before, but they were always the type of people who could never be alone themselves.
Knowing a bit of the background about OP, I think it's more likely she may have never experienced her independent self considering her relationship with her parents. I think it would be hard for people who experience enmeshed relationships to understand why someone would choose themselves or an independent lifestyle over being in a relationship.
I don't side eye for that. I have 2 cousins who are 8 and 6 years older than me (I'm 30) who aren't and never have been married. No side eye from me.
I do, however, side eye you.
Not understanding why someone would choose to stay single and asking questions about it is one thing, but to side-eye (judge) others for choosing to be single and actually being okay with it is quite another. Her post comes off as married=got your sh!t together and are happy and not married=loser/unhappy. It's sad that people have this type of thinking because they obviously don't know how to be happy without a husband/wife in their life. If my grandma were still alive I would've thought she had started this thread.
There are things that other people do that I don't fully understand, but unless what they are doing is way out of the norm and borderline wrong, I don't judge them for their decisions. I don't really care how other people live if it makes them happy and they aren't hurting anyone.
i think the same things about my life.
No more than I side-eye someone who is okay being married to someone who won't come fullly clean about their previous arrest for stealing.
No more than that, really.
Yeah that's right my name's Yauch!
Good call.
Oh, laptop. I love you.
Does being settled mean that you are married? Why can't you be settled and content without being married? I remember a time when my mother wanted me to settle down and get a dog.
Perhaps I am inferring too much, but this question makes me feel like maybe you got married for the wrong reasons.
lol...I might do this, too!
But no, I would not side-eye them. Marriage isn't for everyone.