CIO advice

438Suburbia

Is M too young for this?  How long do I let him cry? 

I did this for the first time last night and I only let him cry maybe 20 minutes but it seemed like hours.  He wasn't even crying the whole time he was just whining most of it. 

AudreyHpbrn

We did it at 6 months.

Have you created a routine? 

We will do nighttime diaper, teeth, books and bottle all while he is wrapped up in a blanket.  Then we have a giraffe that plays white noise.  After the bottle, we say prayers and then I sing to him a little, put him in his crib and snug bug him.

It was hard at times and there are still some days where he cries but if he is just fussing a little, then I wouldn't be too concerned as Saw still fusses at times and then some nights, he is asleep as soon as he is down in the crib.

Granted your situation is different as Saw has slept in his crib since day 1 so not sure how that plays in with you becuase I though M has been in your room for awhile.

thornyburgs

We did it with DS when he was about 5 1/2 months.  The first night he cried for an hour (I went in at 3, 5, 10 minute increments to sooth, pat his back, etc. - which only seemed to make things worse...but anyway).  2nd night he cried for 1/2 an hour, then the 3rd night I think it was less than 5 minutes. 

And yes, those first few nights are AWFUL!!  The minutes seem like the longest hours ever.  But it definitely got better for us. 

438Suburbia

AudreyHpbrn:

We did it at 6 months.

Have you created a routine? 

We will do nighttime diaper, teeth, books and bottle all while he is wrapped up in a blanket.  Then we have a giraffe that plays white noise.  After the bottle, we say prayers and then I sing to him a little, put him in his crib and snug bug him.

It was hard at times and there are still some days where he cries but if he is just fussing a little, then I wouldn't be too concerned as Saw still fusses at times and then some nights, he is asleep as soon as he is down in the crib.

Granted your situation is different as Saw has slept in his crib since day 1 so not sure how that plays in with you becuase I though M has been in your room for awhile.

Yes we do have a routine.  We read, give him a bottle & rock, he falls asleep and I put him in his crib.  All was good until about 2 weeks ago and then he started waking up. 

AudreyHpbrn

438Suburbia:

AudreyHpbrn:

We did it at 6 months.

Have you created a routine? 

We will do nighttime diaper, teeth, books and bottle all while he is wrapped up in a blanket.  Then we have a giraffe that plays white noise.  After the bottle, we say prayers and then I sing to him a little, put him in his crib and snug bug him.

It was hard at times and there are still some days where he cries but if he is just fussing a little, then I wouldn't be too concerned as Saw still fusses at times and then some nights, he is asleep as soon as he is down in the crib.

Granted your situation is different as Saw has slept in his crib since day 1 so not sure how that plays in with you becuase I though M has been in your room for awhile.

Yes we do have a routine.  We read, give him a bottle & rock, he falls asleep and I put him in his crib.  All was good until about 2 weeks ago and then he started waking up. 

Teething?

HawkeyeBride04

We were all good last week with K going down by herself with a little crying...if she woke up she would cry a bit and go back to sleep and that went out the windown this week due to teeh!!  The last 5 nights have been horrible...I even took her to the dr. last night to make sure it wasn't ears and she is all godo but has 4 teeth about to pop through so I am chalking the nighttime waking up to that and won't let her cry when she is in pain from the darn teeth so am hoping they pop through quickly!

Wilwarin

We waited until 10 months, which is when I felt comfortable with it, and it seemed right for him, I was right, it worked just like it should for him.  We used Ferber, and I would highly recommend reading the book before just letting him go for 20 minutes.  Ferber recommends starting at 3 minutes, then progressing slowly.  Some kids may not react well to just being left to cry for so long.

SB&J

I think you know your kid best, you know what he'll respond to. Some kids do well with going in at intervals, some I think do better with just hashing it out the first night (I have one of each). If you're going to let him cry, I would stick to it, don't have him cry one night, then pick him up some nights, etc. I think that just prolongs things.

Good luck. Crying kids are so sad.  I hope he gets settled down & can get back to sleep on his own.

Amy&Andy

CIO blows. And it doesn't work for every kid. But I do think you are about at the right age for it. We did it for the first time around 10 months, and from the many times we've done it, I learned that you do have to be really hard core if it's going to work, and if you aren't ready to be hard core yet, then wait, cause it's not worth the anxiety, IMO (his or yours). We've tried it multiple times, and the one time that it "worked", was when I really stuck to my guns. That time he cried for 45mins the first night (I went in every 10 mins or so), the second night 25 minutes, and the 3rd night 10 mins. And then of course a month or so later he got sick and we had to start all over again.

My kid has always been a crappy sleeper. It took until about 13 months to where he would STTN consistently. However, over the last few months he's been still waking up at least once, if not twice a night. And in the last 3 days he's woken up every half hour from midnight to 4am just wanting to be held. Awesome.

I still go back and forth with it being my fault for not "sleep training" him well enough, and with it being just the way he is.