Okay moms, how to I stop this?

Cristin23

There is a 1 year old at KR's daycare that screams/yells and points to communicate. It WAS kind of cute.

But now KR hears her and needs to be louder, so he screams over her. And now he's turned into a screamer.

He used to just whine, but now he screams. Plug falls out **scream** Ball rolls away **scream**.

99% of the time he's not upset, he just give this blood curdling scream.

How the heck do I stop it?

JuddandJessica

I teach preschool so granted my children are much older. I would for awhile simply get down on his level and tell him that screaming is NOT a way to get things he wants and then model the appropriate behavior. Example: "I see that you are screaming to get your ball. Screaming is NOT an okay way to get what you want. You may ______ instead."

After doing that for multiple times, I would simply ignore the behavior and model the good behavior. Even at one, he will get the point eventually.

indomesticbliss

it may/may not be related to the girl at daycare. At 8 months, there's really no way to communicate what he wants/needs yet besides screaming and crying. Have you tried working with him on baby sign language?

Maybe try asking him "Would you like your ball back?" as you pick up the ball and bring it back to him. And then follow it up with "Here's your ball. You're welcome!" I'm not a baby whisperer, but I do know that there's 20,000 articles about how speaking to your child in a conversation-like manner can help with verbal skills and lessening frustration for kids who don't yet talk.

We did not try sign language with Anders-just never got around to it really. He's gotten much better about letting you know what he wants, but that has only been in the past few months. We went through the cry/squeal stage also, but I think always talking to him (my MIL says I talk all day, every day, to A) has really helped him to understand different words, phrases and learn to point out what he wants...

C_mo

Wyatt squeals, when he's happy, and fusses when he's not, but for the most part he isn't a screamer, so I have no experience with this... That being said, it might just be a phase that needs to be waited out. Wyatt has been through a few phases like that (pointing at everyone with his middle finger being one), and they went away after a little while when he discovered something new. Hopefully that is the case with KR!

britlee in love

My niece did this around 8 months through 14 months or so... She was the loudest baby I have ever heard! She still shrieks on occasion, but it's not as bad. My SIL would very gently put a hand over her mouth and let her know that her current way of expressing herself was not okay. I think between that and simply getting older, she has learned to not scream.

MariaIsMarried

I agree, please do not blame the other child. This is every teacher's worst nightmare.

Use a calm, yet stern tone and look him in the eye. Use simple language, such as "Yelling hurts." I hope this phase passes quickly.

Johlise

My sister's little girl who is only 4 months seems to think that screeching at the top of her lungs is wonderful at times. What my Sister does is says in a firm tone "Jenna, No"  She doesn't raise her voice when she says this, just says it firmly. Jenna seems to have got it figured out that it's not allowed because she'll stop doing it when told not to do it.

Then again I'm not sure that this would work in your situation seeing that your l/o is older than her, and obviously they have started this right from the beginning. GL!