a question out of a frustrating situation....

RoxysMama

Would you assume that children would be invited to a baby shower? A close friend of mine is graciously hosting a co-ed baby shower for DH and I.  The invites were addressed to Mr. & Mrs. Sassypants. Would you assume that Mr. and Mrs. Sassypants should be allowed to  bring their children or is it typical that if its co-ed it's a family thing. I am asking b/c I have never been to/hosted a co-ed baby shower. Just wondering what the norm is. 

PinkHighlighter

I think the rule is, who's invited is invited.  If the invitation only says Mr. and Mrs. SP, then only Mr. and Mrs. SP are invited.  But if it's unclear, it's totally fine to call and ask the host(ess).

cheryl2006

How old are the children? I think I've seen children under 3 or 4 attend baby showers, but any older they usually don't come. Although, I don't know about co-ed showers. I would assume that greatly increases the chance of the children coming. Baby showers aren't super long, so maybe the couple feels it's not worth trying to get a babysitter? I don't have any kids, but if both my husband and I were invited to a shower, I would probably assume it's okay to bring the kids. But if it were just me, I'd probably leave my child at home. Maybe.

I don't think that really helps you at all, does it? I can see it both ways, but bottom line is I wouldn't be surprised if people assumed they could bring kids to a co-ed shower.

sm23

I also think that it's the same as any written invitation: The people named on the invite are the ones invited. I don't think it matters what kind of event it is.

EmmieB

PinkHighlighter:

I think the rule is, who's invited is invited.  If the invitation only says Mr. and Mrs. SP, then only Mr. and Mrs. SP are invited.  But if it's unclear, it's totally fine to call and ask the host(ess).

This. 

hannikan

I've never been to a co-ed shower and I don't have kids. I do know that when I was 6 or so my mom brought me to a baby shower for my aunt. But I was a very good, sit still kid. I even brought my own gift: a bib on which I had done needlepoint of giraffes.

Mrs.BoomBoom

I would assume it would be for kids too.  (and I can see totally missing the exact wording of the names on the envelope even though I KNOW the invite is just for the people listed on the invite.) 

How old are the kids?  What time is the party?  Honestly, I would be a little put out if DH and I were invited to a mid-day event but expected to hire a sitter and miss that family time that's so precious on the weekend.