Saturday Update

Kate&Mark

I feel like I'm spamming the board at this point.

There's no way we would have been able to get Dad to NJ in any sort of timely fashion. He's just not stable enough. We got him moved to University of Colorado Hospital, which is supposed to be top-notch for brain tumors, late on Thrusday. The doctors there haven't given us any more hope, per say, but it's a much better facility.

The new doctor is fantastic. He's been emailing Fei Fei constantly about Dad's condition and treatment options so the pressure there is off Mark's Mom at this point. Fei Fei's good with this stuff, so she's handling it.

We're still waiting for swelling to go down and final biopsy results before starting any kind of treatment. That should happen early next week. The new doctor says it will be weeks before he's stable enough to come home. He's also said that things could spiral down fast and we need to be prepared for that.

Mark and his brother are flying out there this weekend to help out his Mom/make sure they get their final goodbyes in. Mark doesn't want me to go yet. He thinks he'll be able to hold it together for him Mom if I'm not there. I told him he can change his mind at any time and I'll be on the next plane out. It sucks. I just want to hold him and take care of him but I know doing what he thinks is best is the way to go at this point.

We had dinner reservations in the city and tickets to a show last night. We've been planning it for a while so Mark still wanted to go. It was a really good night. Seminar was fantastic. Alan Rickman was fantastic. We laughed our butts off and had a really good time.

And, as we're walking back down into the train station, there was a woman with several large suitcases. Mark walked right up to her and asked her if she needed help and carried them down two flights of stairs for her. It's been arguably the worst week of his life so far and he still steps up to help other people without a second thought. I married the most amazing man in the world.

ktwed09

Kate, you're absolutely not spamming. I personally have been thinking about you guys a lot, and wondering how things are going, so I appreciate the updates. I'm sure that's the general feeling on the board.

I'm glad to hear your FIL was able to be moved to a better facility, and that he has a doctor  you all trust. I'm also so happy that you guys got a night out before Mark has to leave, as I'm sure the coming days won't be easy on either of you. You're so right, Mark's compassion for that woman even as he deals with this whole situation clearly shows what a caring, wonderful man he is. I'm still sending lots of T&Ps to all of you, and I'm so sorry this is happening. Let us know if you need anything!!! 

MariaIsMarried

Kate, This is just a horrible situation all around. I too admire your strength and am sure Mark and his family are incredibly grateful. I also would not expect any less of Mark for helping that lady -- you picked a good one! Continued hugs and t&ps.

shortycole2

MariaIsMarried:

I also would not expect any less of Mark for helping that lady -- you picked a good one! Continued hugs and t&ps.

This. Mark is awesome. And so are you. You are being so brave and so strong for him. Thinking of you both and your family. Please call/text/email any time you need to while he's gone. Xoxo

LauraR326

Kate, you are NOT spamming the board.  We all are thinking about you and are here if you need us for anything.  Let us know. The Mark story brought tears to my eyes, which it shouldn't have because he's just that awesome, but it did.  Hang in there and keep up with what you're doing.  It might be hard for Mark to say how much he appreciates all that you do while going through this tough time but he really does.  Love you both. 

yvdukana

Kate, you are most certainly not spamming the board. I've been thinking about you guys a lot, and hoping they'd be able to get him home, I'm sorry to hear that's not possible right now. It's at least good to hear he's at a better facility for this and being cared for by good doctors. I'm so sorry you guys are having to go through all of this. Mark is amazing, such a sweet and caring guy, the story about him helping the lady at the train station is so sweet, you picked well. Still sending tons of T&Ps to everyone and big hugs to you. We're here if you need anything. 

LindsayB0505

Thanks for keeping us updated.  I'm going to blame it a bit on the baby hormones still being out of whack, but I teared up reading the part about him helping the lady with her suitcases.  You have an amazing man there.

I can't believe how downhill he went so fast.  Was he having any symptoms at all before they went on this trip?  Hopefully they can figure out a treatment plan, and get him stabilized and home really soon.   

krissyrose210

Sending lots of T&P to you and Mark. What an awful situation.

Johlise

Thanks for the update again! Mark is amazing for helping the lady with her suitcases, you've got a wonderful man in your life!!!

I'm so sorry about your dad though, I hope that they are able to successfully do surgery and that he recovers soon! 

KareBear0408

Sending all my T&Ps to you guys!

Mark is one amazing person-and so are you!

Love you xoxo

becky5858

Kate, I'm so glad you updated. I've been thinking of you and Mark a lot today. I'm glad Mark is able to head out there. I'm so sorry to hear that Mark's dad may not be able to travel for awhile. Continued thoughts and prayers to everyone involved.

CurlyGirlyGirl

Mark and your inlaws are so lucky to have such a strong woman holding down the fort at home.  Continued thoughts and prayers coming your way, dear.

mrsm711

Thanks so much for the update.  Even more T&Ps, vibes and hugs for yall.