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Embarrassing...
Ok. This is difficult to talk about but I need a little advice! I am newly married, and was a virgin prior to wedded bliss. I am on the pill, and we have been using condoms BUT he has a really hard time reaching orgasm with the condoms (can't say I blame him!) and we decided to try "unprotected". Again, I am on the pill, and I even added a spermacide. I cannot find any information on the internet worth reading, and I guess I just need a little support/advice that what I'm doing is ok?! We REALLY don't want to get pregnant right now, but man.. sex is SO much different (dare I say.. better) without a condom. Is it safe for him to *** inside of me? Any help is appreciated. 
Ps. I realize I sound naive, and well.. that is because I am.
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Re: Embarrassing...
I am guessing you and he have a fear of pregnancy -- the only time you should use a condom backup is when you are taking some type of med that weakens or inactivates the efficacy of the pill -- antibiotics is one of them.
Like I said, skip the condom. GL.
As long as you have been on the pill for a month, to make sure it;s effective. you should be fine. With anything (including condoms) there's always a chance of getting pregnant. You need to remember to take your pill at the same time every day, NEVER skip one, and that's the best way to have the highest effectiveness.
The spermicide is probably overkill, and so are the condoms if you're on the pill.
If you're very paranoid you can always watch the dates around day 14-18 of your cycle and not have sex. If you will ovulate, it is normally around then.
Hope that helps!
You should be good if you're on the pill and you take it very accurately. If you missed a pill or if you ended up taking it late you could always use extra precaution then so you don't become paranoid about being pregnant (that's never fun!).
If you want to put another barrier between your uterus and his sperm, you could use a cervical cap or diaphragm.
If you want reliable information about birth control, try Planned Parenthood.
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control/birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control-4211.htm
if you have a smartphone you can get an ap called menstrual calendar premium
it will track your period, pills, and ovulation. you can track days you have sex, symptoms you get from your period, your temp.
its super handy
if you track the days that youre ovulating and either abstain on those days or use a condom on those days just for some extra peace of mind then the rest of the days I wouldnt worry
if youre also scared about him cuming inside you then you can have him pull out, but remember thats still not foolproof.
PP have mentioned a diaphragm, which is another good solution.
good luck and never be scared to ask questions!