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UO Wednesday
Re: UO Wednesday
I disagree with the person who asked me if I was "living right" after we were talking about all of the things that have gone wrong with our house in the last three weeks (water heater died, steam cleaner died, house flooded, furnace control panel broke, thermostat broke, washing machine soap dispenser motor is going out, water heater didn't pass inspection...) and that God must be smiting H and me because we don't go to church.
I said that we were good people, and she said, "That's not enough." Really? I have to go to church to have my home not suck? Okay, yeah, I'll get right on that because it makes TOTAL SENSE.
You're living right, your definition of "right" just differs from hers. This would have made me seriously angry.
I should stop here before I get really offensive.
Say whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat? I probably would have responded with something like "If your living right means the same thing as mine - hookers and blow every night baby, then hells yeah I am living right!"
I am so sorry. That is........wow.
So, we have been shopping at Walmart. I know, I know. We normally shop at Homeland because they are a Thunder sponsor but given there is nothing to sponsor right now, I am trying to save a few bucks at Walmart.
I swear to God, that stupid Walmart "off" brand, Great Value, is taking over the entire damn store. I could barely find a can of Del Monte green beans - none of those but cases, I mean CASES full of Great Value everywhere. My guess is that they make more money off of the GV stuff but I don't want it, yo. I want CAMPBELL'S cream of crap. I want PILLSBURY premade pie crust. I want KRAFT cheese. I ended up having to buy a ton of GV stuff - with the exception of the cream of crap soups, I went elsewhere for Campbells. So annoying.
I refuse to go to WM. Their crappy Great Value brand is one of those reasons. It's not a great value if it tastes like shipoopie.
As for the co-worker...I mumbled something about H being Catholic and she said that wasn't enough either. I just walked away at that point. Sorry, I wasn't raised in a religious household. I don't think any deity, real or fictional, is going to hold that against me!
The co-worker that told you all of that crap is a moron. I am a Christian and so is my entire family. We've had a lot of bad happen this year. From H's truck getting stolen, having to re-buy all of our tools, my vehicle needing $3k in repairs, H's truck needing over $6k in repairs, buying a new welding machine for our business only to find the old one was recovered a week later (the machine is a non-returnable item...yikes)...I could go on. We attend church every Sunday and tithe off of our gross income every week. We haven't exactly had a break financially all freakin' year. This isn't because God is smiting me. It's called "sh!t happens". To EVERYONE.
So have her explain that one. And tell her she's really, really stupid.
My unpopular opinion: I don't get people that have already put up their Christmas tree. Do it after Thanksgiving.
Jenn, I personally think the Christians that think that way are the reason so many people hate Christianity and avoid it at all costs. They make it seem like their way of life is absolute perfection--when it reality, all they're doing is being awful hypocrites. I get very tired of the holier than thou attitude/better than you attitude that some Christians give off. It's exhausting to me.
I agree with you that everyone has issues, and some people just choose to hide them.
Christians get murdered, they get cancer, they get in car wrecks and die, their children have things wrong with them, they, too, are sexually abused, etc. Bottom line is they're normal people given free will in this world. Being Christian doesn't make anyone exempt from anything bad. If anything, I think it is more of a coping mechanism for a bad situation--Christians lean on God for comfort and resolution, and I think that's great. People without religion can obviously be just as capable of coping, just in a different way.
I don't know if any of that made sense. I am in a really weird mood today.
Toms are ugly.
BUT, sometimes I see an outfit (mainly on Pinterest) that pairs them with cute clothes and I don't think they're too bad. It's that ugly square toe thing that gets me.
I couldn't have said this better!
I know what you are saying, but at the same time, people often say things about how God gave them good things or let good things happen to them because they are good or because they do good or whatever. The whole "it was Gods will" thing. That sort of also would mean that if bad things happen its because they aren't "good" or didn't do good. I don't think it is an intentional thing, but when something really sh!tty happens to you, I think it sort of changes the perspective.
I totally agree that Christians lean on God when bad things happen and though I have believed in God for years, I think I find myself in church now, not because I think God was punishing me for not going to church by taking S, but because I need to beleive in God and see that there is a plan for the kids and for me. I am hoping to find some sort of hope in church.
Wow, totally didn't mean to make this all about me, but there it is.
I think a lot of people don't know what to say in the time of tragedy. I think there are a lot of misguided Christians out there who's faith is based on emotion instead of knowledge.
When we lost James I felt like my relationship with God was the strongest it had ever been and it really made me search and question my faith. I feel like I have come out of that situation so much stronger in my beliefs, though I still get angry at times. I really have to give the side eye to people who say things like "you aren't right with God".
I agree. I am also glad to hear you say that your relationship with God was the strongest when you lost James. I have that feeling too and I thought I was crazy. Part of it I think is for selfish reasons though, because if I trust in God then that means I will see S again and if I don't then I won't.
People like this obviously haven't read the book of Job. There wasn't a more faithful follower than Job and he experienced more than his fair share of tragedy.
Lol, I changed jobs and felt like I needed to be a bit more incognito. Glad it worked!