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My BM's baby angel and a question for you
Today we baked a lasagna, got flowers and chocolates and went to visit my BM and her little angel Maeve. It's a Polish tradition to bring food for daddy, who will not be relying on his wife to cook, bring flowers for the mommy for a job well done, and chocolates for the baby, to make her life sweet (this one is more symbolic 
Anyways, so we got there, and their little angel was sleeping in a little swing. She is so absolutely gorgeous I totally want to be preggo right now and have one of my own. I held her for a moment and she is the first baby that did not cry in my arms. She tried smiling and made a ton of a funny faces. DH held her too and made funny voices and she made these huge eyes at him. She is so cute!!
I told my BM that I saw Maeve's picture on FB, posted by her SIL. My BM said: she must have forgotten the rule - no pictures of the baby on FB. When DH and I asked why not, they said that it's because they do not want some pedophile to find the pictures. My BM does not use FB and she doesn't want her baby to be on it either. She also mentioned that some people take too many pictures of their babies, some in very compromising situations, and these pictures will be online forever, possibly messing these kids school experience one day.
What do you think about this? I am super picture happy, and I know that I will post a lot of my kids' pictures. I will make sure there are no naked pictures of them (some people do that) on FB, but will not decide not to post because there may be a pedophile out there looking for the pictures. That's why I blocked my FB and limited it to my friends only. What are your thoughts on this?
Re: My BM's baby angel and a question for you
I think it's a bit ridiculous for her to automatically think Facebook = pedophile's dream. And while she can ask the SIL to take down the photos, there's nothing she can really do unless she wants to get the law involved. Also, if she's not on a social networking site, how can she be so privy to how people post photos of their children?
I have no issue with parents posting pics of their children and I'm not friends with anyone who has posted naked pictures before, so it's not a problem.
Do the creep.
First of all, pedophiles will be everywhere with or without the aide of facebook photos. Sorry. Have you ever checked out Megan's Law to see where registered sex offenders live near you? Creepy sh!t. :-(
BUT to the point: I feel like, It's her kid, her rules. Period.
I don't particularly like the thought of pictures of my future baby on facebook either. I'm private about that stuff. We will probably send links to digital albums to the faraway family when the time comes (like picassa albums, for example; we do this whenever we travel which is frequently) and that's that.
Bottom line is, if she asked people not to post photos, and someone has, they should respect her wishes. The baby is a minor after all, and if her parents want her pix offline, their wishes should be honored. I mean at least until the kid is old enough to want to be on fbook herself (will it still exist??) and start posting pix of her own maybe. Let the parents decide when and how it comes about, if at all.
I think facebook is annoying though...so I have a biased in my reply too, maybe. I don't have a facebook. I'm like a sad little army of one, haha. Well, actually, H doesn't either. He did but he hated it so he deactivated or whatever.