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dwelling on last year...
My husband works for his cousin at an autobody shop. His cousin is VERY dishonest to his customers, pockets a paycheck of STACKS of money, like 1,000's of dollars a week- and has cheated my husband out of money that he says he will give him and never does. My husband does not say anything- because it is his cousin... Every year for x mas we go to my Husbands parent's house for x mas and the cousin and his wife are there, so we get them a gift. Last year we got them a beautiful candle ( reusible) that they LOVED and it cost 100.00. They got us a 30.00 movie gift card that we have yet to use b/c that theater is about an hr and 1/2 away. My husband was a little irritated of the gift that they gave us last year, and wants to spend less on them this year. I dont know what to think. I know christmas isnt about the gifts, but it always seems to be that way..
Re: dwelling on last year...
It was a year ago. Let it go. While a theater 90 minutes away seems inconvenient, you could make a cute day-trip out of it. Try to look at the brightside.
And it shouldn't be about giving and blah blah blah.. but I've been in the same boat - where I feel gifts received weren't as thoughtful as gifts given. Don't let it get to you, though. If you feel obligated to spend less... do so. The cost of a gift shouldn't matter - the value should be in the significance and thoughtfulness.
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What was the candle made of? i've never heard of a 100 dollar candle, they might not have realized how expensive it was.
but regardless, spend what you want to spend and don't worry about what they spend, i have family members that will give me something they picked up at the dollar store knowing i spent a decent amount of cash on them. it sucks that they don't reciprocate but in the end i feel good giving gifts to other people regardless of what i get in return.
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First of all, your H should quit his job. I'm not sure why he wants to work for someone who is dishonest to customers and doesn't pay him what he deserves. I'm sure your H could find work at a reputable autobody shop.
As for the gift - you know they spend $30 on you, so spend less on them. Personally, I don't think an employee should give a gift as big as the one his "boss" is getting him, but it's hard to go less than $30. Maybe bake them some cookies?
That's true, unfortunately! As others have said, I'd still get them a gift and *try* to let go of last year, but would spend way less! Maybe like $50. Because $30 really is kind of ridiculous.
so the movie tickets are for a place 90mins away and you haven't used them.
yep, I'd give them back to them, with a restaurant.com gc & let them make a day out of it.
I also agree that your H should quit.
This is a great idea! Re-gift it because if they went out there to get it, it's close enough for them...
Personally I would scale back. We always put together a budget for Christmas and stick to it. This year has been a tough year for us and we scaled back a lot to allow us to at least get our kids something for Christmas. For us its about seeing the enjoyment on their faces.