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Attention lurkers, posters, and those who like to click
This is a friendly PSA:
Yes SO has some trainwrecks. The majority of the women on this board are strong, lovely, independent women who have been through some unfortunate circumstances, but learned to overcome the negative in their lives.
Please don't judge us all on the crazy few.
Re: Attention lurkers, posters, and those who like to click
lol.
I get the grieving part. We all go through it during a divorce. We all grieve in our own ways. But I am all for grieving in a healthy way, that's all.
There will always be people at different parts of their break ups (the newbs, the transitioners from divorce to singlehood, and those who have been there and maybe moved on). That's what is great about this place b/c there will always be someone who can relate.
But FFS. It would be one thing if she admitted she was wrong, regretted it, and was looking to move on. But she is arguing what a heinous b!tch the OW is.
Hey, I'm aware of my trainwreck status. I've been quietly working on therapy and my co-dependency issues. Wah wah wah.
I will take that drink
Ha, Air definitely looks normal compared to Dmnds!
ETA: good for you for working on your issues Air! I hope things start turning aroun for you soon
I second that!
I think we are making it more of a trainwrek than it should be though. We are putting a lot of energy into responding to someone who is not ready to learn yet.
But I am proud of a lot of you ladies, your responses tells me you have a good head on your shoulders and I am glad to have met you.
You're still here!!!! Oh, goody!
Yeah that's right my name's Yauch!
Yep. So sorry to disappoint.
Seriously, this is why I didn't bother responding. There is a pattern here:
1) Diamonds posts something that makes her look not over her ex/BSC/trainwreck-ish
2) We give her advice as to why it isn't a good idea
3) Diamonds argues with ALL posters and states why it is a good idea
4) Diamonds goes on to ignore all of our advice and does it anyway
Repeat steps 1-4.
Not to sound like a biitch but I just can't put my energy into it anymore.
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
Not disappointed at ALL, I love your posts, they're amazing!
Yeah that's right my name's Yauch!
Agree with this. Maybe she'll get there, maybe she won't. I get frustrated by those who don't want to help themselves though.
Sidenote: Air, good for you!
Add in an inability to detect sarcasm.
Was she the one that called her XH or his new GF an ungodly amount of times over a day?
The one who got wasted and called them, like, 60 times in one night? If that is who you are referring to, no, that wasn't MrsJennifer. I forgot her SN though. She hasn't been around in a while.
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
That's what I was referring to. What is MrsJennifer's story? I don't recall it.
Shes the nutcase who said that single moms who date are doing their kids harm or some crap like that while lamenting that her DC will never have a biological sibling. She thinks that half siblings and adopted kids aren't real siblings and can't be normal families. Her marriage was abusive so she plays that card like crazy to make herself the victim when her crazy comes out.
Apparently she's also ridiculously offended by naked women in locker rooms, especially those who let it all "jiggle out" or something to that extent.
It doesn't sound so bad but shes another BSC poster who will defend her crazy to the death because "you all don't know me!"
I remember her as also insulting older women saying they were all cougar hunting.
Is that why you were posting on GP today about thinking you are pregnant...asking a bunch of internet strangers instead of just POAS like you should've?
OMG I just read that--ARE YOU EFFING KIDDING ME WOMAN?! There is no way in hell that you should even be thinking about procreating. Seriously, WHAT THE EFF IS WRONG WITH YOU?!!??!
Please, for the love of all that is holy in this world, do not have a baby! Our tax dollars are already paying for your lowlife boyfriend to sit on his asss and do nothing but mess you up, don't let our hard earned money raise your effed up kid too.
(also, take the test again with first morning urine)
Wowwwww... so yeah no big deal. I'm not pregnant. I take my BCP, I was just wondering why I was feeling weird. The thought of having a family some day is appealing, but I'm not planning on having one any time soon. Is there a problem with wanting something some day? So BF and I talked about someday having children. S O M E D A Y. Not this week or month or year. But let me tell you something, if in the case an accident happened, yeah I would accept it and take responsibility. Every single sexually active woman has had the thought before, "Ohmyshit what if I'm pregnant". And then you run every scenario in your head. So I was human for a minute, not that I'm not human every second, but I wanted to ask some opinions because I wasn't sure if I could be or not. I didn't think I actually was, and I'm not ready for a family, yet. I can't even take care of myself. It's a goal I'd like to work towards someday. Get off my case, already. I'm trying to do well. I'm trying to figure out what is wrong with me and why I can't be a functioning person. It takes steps and time, and I'm taking the steps. Jeeze.
Not using backup BCP while taking antibiotics if you're on the pill is not being responsible. You're not trying to do well, you're self sabotaging every forward step you take.
A baby is the last thing you need to add to your mix of issues including co-dependency. Saying you'll be responsible for the life of another human being when you are "trying to figure out what is wrong with me and why I can't be a functioning person" isn't compelling. Figure your self out before having irresponsible sex. Don't plan for a family with this man, plan for an exit strategy or we will see you back on here in 5 years with 2 under 2.
If you post on public message boards, there's no telling people to get off your back. You can start accepting responsibility by taking some flames instead of using excuses.
ETA: I said 5 years for 2 under 2 to give you the benefit of the doubt that you'll get your act together for a few years first...
Not using backup BCP while taking antibiotics if you're on the pill is not being responsible. You're not trying to do well, you're self sabotaging every forward step you take.
A baby is the last thing you need to add to your mix of issues including co-dependency. Saying you'll be responsible for the life of another human being when you are "trying to figure out what is wrong with me and why I can't be a functioning person" isn't compelling. Figure your self out before having irresponsible sex. Don't plan for a family with this man, plan for an exit strategy or we will see you back on here in 5 years with 2 under 2.
If you post on public message boards, there's no telling people to get off your back. You can start accepting responsibility by taking some flames instead of using excuses.
ETA: I said 5 years for 2 under 2 to give you the benefit of the doubt that you'll get your act together for a few years first...
I love him. I'm taking responsibility for that. He is my best friend and has been for a while. I have been in relationships before where I didn't feel much of anything and I was ho-hum bored out of my mind, but with BF it's so different. There's a spark and it's fun and exciting and I adore him so much. Why would I leave him? Seriously, so what he's on disability? He's got bone fragments floating in his spine. He is in pain constantly. A panel of doctors deemed him permanently disabled. How is that his fault? He does his part to help me financially and around the house. He is in no way a lazy man, unlike my XH who DID work for a living but would spend "his" money on his addictions and never lift a finger in the house we owned together. He made me work like a man in my house, doing everything from cleaning to home improvement projects because the big man couldn't take time away from himself or his mistress. So to make a point, put yourself in my shoes. I found someone who treats me with respect and loves me, does nice things for me, and we mutually respect each other. What is the effing problem? I'm working on my co-dependency with my therapist. I'm working on doing things by myself. I'm working on giving my man space, and he's working on giving me mine. It's something that's going to take a while. So I'm a trainwreck, but I will not turn my back on my BF because we both have some problems. If he cheated on me, got violent, or did something to break my trust that's one thing, but for having some issues because he's depressed that his little sister died, I think he's allowed. You all know my story, and maybe I'm crazy because I try to explain myself. You know the funny thing? The only part of my life I'm absolutely happy with is him. I'm trying to change everything else so I'm wholly happy. If it's not broken, why try to fix it?
If this is true.... this sh!t p!sses me off so fvcking bad. I work my a$$ off with two jobs trying to make things work, and 1/2 my pay check along with many others goes to your fvcking loser boyfriend, and you can't take responsibility to make sure there is no way in fuckinghell that you get pregnant?!?!?
Why not have 3 fricken kids with this loser.... oh yeah, enough doesn't come out of my check already.
We don't know all the details but he's on disability and collects SS. Yet he's able bodied enough to clean her house while she's at work but too disabled to work any job himself. Hmmm...
Low life scum piece of sh!t. Oh yeah.... I can see why she wants a child with this winner.
FYI.... I love your name and everytime I see it I want Mint Choc Chip ice cream.
Hi. First of all, who are you? And secondly, you have NO idea who you are talking to. I work hard for everything I own. I worked two jobs until two weeks ago, and now I'm only working one. He collects disability. Not welfare. He doesn't get assistance from the county at all because he is too proud to. He is not lazy. Imagine what it would be like to wake up in the morning and cannot get out of bed because your spine hurts so bad. We're not talking pop a tylenol and get going type pain. We're talking crippling, hunched over, can't stand for a long time, can't sit for a long time pain...and then see if you could go to work. Get your damn head out of your asss because you don't know what it is like to be in his situation. Everyone instantly thinks disability = laziness, which is not the case. I work for Social Security. I see disability claims all day long and some are bullshitt for sure, but some people genuinely need it. I forgot though, that no matter what I say, and what valid points I actually do have, you all will judge the crap out of me and my life because you're all better than me. I forgot. No one is created equal.
First of all you stupid b!tch. Did I say anything about you not working?
And you certainly are not going to sit here and tell me I don't know anything about his situation. I had a rotator cuff that was torn 95% of the way for 2 years before I had surgery, and didn't miss a day of work. I also have a torn meniscus in my knee that I need surgery for and have not yet, because I can't afford to miss work. And between both jobs, I work at least 68 hours a week.
And last, you can believe your piece of sh!t loser boyfriend's story about his poor poor back. But you are not going to convience me. If he can clean your house, and apparently have sex with a bad back.....her sure the fvck can work.