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OLIVIA65

Here goes. I have been a lurker for years on the nest. I was  married for 15 years. Together for 20. Married cause he look good on paper.  I decided to leave. Very abruptly cause I  was tired of living  with a person who had no emotions. He took are of everything. We had 2 houses cash in the bank no kids etc.  when I left he took me 4 everything he hit me up for alimony etc. I am starting over. He was 11 years older . I have no idea how u ladies do this with Lil ones I am struggling cause  I feel like i had a great life which I provided but I threw it away.  

OLIVIA65

Sorry. What I am asking advice for is how do u do it alone after being two people for so long. When I get sad about that I think I brought this on myself.

Motzie

It's natural to have some feelings of regret, and to trick yourself into thinking you left a good thing. But you left for a reason, or many reasons. You have the opportunity to start fresh, to find yourself, as cliche as that may sound. Do things you want to do, do them for you. It can be hard to be alone suddenly, but keep yourself busy with friends, the gym, etc. It will all get easier with time.

beansNgreens

Motzie:

It's natural to have some feelings of regret, and to trick yourself into thinking you left a good thing. But you left for a reason, or many reasons. You have the opportunity to start fresh, to find yourself, as cliche as that may sound. Do things you want to do, do them for you. It can be hard to be alone suddenly, but keep yourself busy with friends, the gym, etc. It will all get easier with time.

Yup, Motzie is right. Your life was not as great as your mind would lead you to believe, otherwise, why would you have left? Make a list of reasons why you are better off, and keep it in a place where you can look at it regularly.

Honestly though, this is what I am struggling with myself right now. I am young, but I have been "with" this person for so long (7 years this December) that I'm having a hard time breaking away.

Oh fvck. It just hit me that I'm just a few weeks from turning 24. I'm not getting any younger. I guess I need to get my sh*t together.

OLIVIA65

thanks, i definately have to make a list of good things now. i guess i was on autopilot so long and everyone including him where shocked when i left. its funny because i use to judge somewhat people who gave up alot to leave there spouses, but now i realize we all deserve to be happy.  we only live once.