What's your impression?

RoxysMama

So as most of you know my sister is also pregnant and due in February. She posed this idea to me and before I share my reaction I would like your input.

My MIL hosted a baby shower for me which included mostly DH's family but also my younger sister and mom. Last weekend my BF hosted a shower for DH and I which included our close friends. My sister will also be having a baby shower in Poland.

So she tells me the other day that she plans on having a "meet the baby party" when she comes to visit next xmas (the baby will be approx. 10 months old).

My questions is:

What do you think of a meet the baby party when the child is almost a year old?

leolyns

I don't see anything wrong with it if that's the soonest that your sister and baby are going to be out here.

pink.dutch.tulips

i don't see anything wrong with it .. if that's the earliest anyone can get together (and in my family it'd be perfectly normal since we don't live close by each other).

i didn't meet my nieces until they were over a year old - christmas 2010 was the first time that the 3 girls (my dd, brother's dd (WY), and younger sister's dd (MI)) were able to get together. that christmas was one HUGE meet the baby(s) party.

Mrs.BoomBoom

leolyns:

I don't see anything wrong with it if that's the soonest that your sister and baby are going to be out here.

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I did one in San Diego when Q was about 3 months.  It was just a casual open house.  Not everyone brought presents (and most of what I got were clothes...I don't think anyone shopped the registry)

katrina_pharmd

I agree with pp's.  If that's the soonest people can actually meet the bubba, then it's fine.  We had a meet our kid BBQ whilst we were back in CA in October.  DS was 7.5 months old.  It was awesome seeing our family and friends get to cuddle our LO.

EmmieB

When we finally made it back to Dallas with Sebastian in the spring, my mom threw a "meet the baby" party...and he was 15 months old. But no one in Dallas had met him yet, so it worked. 

It wasn't a shower, though. It was very definitely just an afternoon party. 

RoxysMama

i think my main issue is that she wants it to be like a shower which seems gift grabby to me. like she didnt get to have a shower here with our family so she wants to recreate it and soak up the presents. just didnt seem right to me.

EmmieB

RoxysMama:

i think my main issue is that she wants it to be like a shower which seems gift grabby to me. like she didnt get to have a shower here with our family so she wants to recreate it and soak up the presents. just didnt seem right to me.

ah. awkward.

hannikan

I assume it's your best friend who is asking about giving the shower for your sister, not your sister herself? Of course, that's fine. The shower she'll have in Poland won't involve any of her family or her friends from home. When I was born in France my mom's friends/co-workers there gave her a shower but no one from her family or her friends from home was there. I'm sure someone had a shower for her when they brought me to the U.S. for the first time when I was 3 months old. And if it's your sister suggesting a meet the baby non shower, that's fine, too. People will be excited to see her baby for the first time.

Mrs.BoomBoom

RoxysMama:

i think my main issue is that she wants it to be like a shower which seems gift grabby to me. like she didnt get to have a shower here with our family so she wants to recreate it and soak up the presents. just didnt seem right to me.

I agree that if that's her goal, it's gift grabby.  Generally these 'meet the baby' sip-n-sees are not showers.

RoxysMama

the shower is her idea.she would host it. i get that ppl will be eager to meet the baby i just didnt like the "shower" aspect of it.

Mrs.BoomBoom

RoxysMama:

the shower is her idea.she would host it. i get that ppl will be eager to meet the baby i just didnt like the "shower" aspect of it.

and hosting your own shower is definitely a no-no

hannikan

Mrs.BoomBoom:

and hosting your own shower is definitely a no-no

Yep, for sure. That will leave a bad taste in people's mouths.