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etiquette on duplicate gifts?
Adrian got a Little People Zoo from my ILs for Christmas. It was bought from target online and sent to me, so I had the receipt. I have oodles of toys at work (that are mine) that I bring home on a rotating basis, and can keep home if he loves them. One of my toys at work happens to be a very similar Little People Zoo to the one he received. I thanked my ILs and said he'd enjoy the zoo (I just didn't say which zoo!). I returned the zoo they bought and got him stuff that he didn't have or I didn't have at work. It just seemed foolish to keep 2 zoos.
Now, here's the etiquette question...should I have told them we already had it? Or did I do the right thing just thanking and returning myself?
I was hoping they'd buy off the wish list we created, but can't be picky when it comes to receiving.
I'm thankful our families don't go crazy. My poor cousin's family gets sooo much stuff that she has to almost take truck fulls of stuff out to have room for the new stuff to come in. Anyone else's family like that?
Re: etiquette on duplicate gifts?
you probably should have said - He loves the zoo you got him, and I know b/c he has one just like it. I exchanged it for___. Since it's family.
but there is no harm it what you did.
You handled it the same way that I would. Especially with kids gifts, duplicates are not unusual and I don't think that the gift giver needs to know that you already had it.
I know my mom is going to go crazy with gift buying. We already had our Christmas with her and she bought Piglet 2 outfits, a bear, rattle, and a large supply of books. Right now it's great because we are just getting started with stocking up but I know that she will be overloading us with stuff from here on out.
I'd do somthing like this.
After having a few duplicates of things, my parents and ILs now ask if we already have a toy/clothing item before buying it!
I am constantly returning stuff that MIL buys. I don't tell her unless she asks.
This. Mostly I take it back though because I don't like it, or we have no use for it. She also tends to buy things in the right size, but the wrong season. Or vice versa. i have an amazon list going for T, but she never looks at it, nor does she take me up on offers to go shopping with me. At least if she went she'd see what I prefer to dress T in and what she needs. I am very grateful but it can be annoying sometimes.
I usually just take it back. She normally gives me the receipt anyway since she knows that I am much like her. We aren't picky, we just like things a certain way