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Re: C&P I need opinions
Step away. You are BOTH married and there are kids involved. Get your own $hit straight before you start mixing in dating.
I'm not one to say the divorce has to be official before you can start dating, but you need to at least figured out if you want to try and make the marriage work or not.
Especially as your separation is actually not even public knowledge! If you aren't ready to tell people, DO NOT START DATING.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
I don't understand "working on your marriage" while pursuing a romantic relationship with another man. Do yourself a favor and file for divorce already. Geez, this isn't that hard.
Sigh.
Okay, I'll put my flammable past out there. I was barely separated and this guy was barely separated and we thought it would be a great idea to start something (no kids). Big flaming mistake. Barely separated for me turned out to be "headed for divorce" but it wasn't the case for the guy involved. I was pretty messed up already and that made the whole thing worse.
Step away from this terrible, terrible idea. Figure out your own business and don't think about dating anyone for a while. ESPECIALLY since there are children involved. You can be an idiot all you want when it's just you, but don't drag children into it for the love of God.
I'll just remind everyone reading that the OP is considering dating a married man with 2 young kids.
There's a special place in hell for people like you.
Either sh*t or get off the pot. You can't have both.
Divorce your H you're unhappy with, or work on the marriage. Like all the PP said, don't date until that's done. And especially don't date a married man who separates from his wife more than once, as implied by your OP.
Um excuse me. He is SEPARATED from his wife. It's not like he left her because of me and as I stated in my other post, I do not want to be the reason someone else's marriage ends.
Calm down. Your OP is a bit confusing on this point. You say your friend said this guy was single, but two sentences later you say he and his wife had separated briefly before. Strictly speaking, that's contradictory. He may be separated, waiting for the divorce to be final or he may be separated on track to getting back together as they have apparently done before. It's not clear anywhere in your posts. And for the record, the only thing that makes him single are the final divorce papers.
I second all who've told you to leave your marriage first. Let him decide on his own if he's ready to leave his. And don't do anything about any "crush" until you're both free to do so.
That's pretty hot under the collar for someone posting under an AE because she is discussing dating a married man...while she is still married. Re-read your ridiculous statement.
Stay out of other peoples' marriages.