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Approaching H
My sex life with H is ok, once or twice a week, but I want to increase that since I know it will be better for the both of us. Before we go to bed, I am super tired so I don't feel like it and he never initiates so we don't have sex during the week, only on weekends. Well, I want to start approaching him after dinner or whenever. I have done this in the past with no success. He's usually on the computer or we are watching TV, and when I go up to him and start kissing his neck he tells me to stop. Is it normal for a man to be into something so much that he won't stop what he's doing for sex?
I'm not always in the mood due to medications but I want to have sex to be close and because well, it feels good. I know he likes it but getting any during the week is almost impossible.
I'm just tired of having sex so predictably on the weekends. This will also be a problem in the future when we TTC. Any suggestions?
Re: Approaching H
Start seducing him at breakfast. Do little seductive things that will catch his interest - bend over closely in front of him, slip in front of him while he is at the fridge, rubbing your butt up against him, brush his arm with your breasts, then coyly say "Excuse me". Be flirty and fun with him, like you are trying hard to attract his attention. It will stay with him all day.
When he comes home from work (if you are home first), greet him at the door with a hug and a kiss, offer to make him a drink, or do something you know he normally does and serve him. Make him feel special. Keep up the seduction at dinner - rub his leg with your foot, wear something provocative on a Tuesday night, show some cleavage - bend over so he gets a glimpse of your goodies. Men like to be teased and tempted.
Eventually, he will be distracted enough to log off the computer and dive under the covers.
First and foremostly.
YOu need to sit him down outside the bedroom -- do it on an afternoon when you and he have nothing on your schedule but free time -- and tell him you'd like to have more sex.
Jump into the shower with him or invite him in when you're on your way in. Let nature take its course.
My husband and I are very open about what we want. We send each other suggestive text messages thru out the day. Sex that night after messaging during the day is amazing! Talk to him and let him know what you want and need
Back to the idea of getting home before him........
Wear a sexy little outfit, lacy, see-through, cheeky, or something along those lines and be cooking dinner when he gets home.
Afterwards you can tell him you'd like to do this more often.
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A good time for H and I is right when we get home from work. (We come home together because we carpool.) It works out great because he has to change his clothes anyway.
As PP have said communication is key. Tell him what you want.