Intro

Liubot

Hi there. I've been lurking for a while and I thought it was time to introduce myself.

I'm Lucy, 27 years old, separated from STBXH since April. I have my BF who I've been dating for 5 months. I'm just waiting on my attorney to stop dragging his feet and get me the final divorce papers to sign. It's almost over.

A little back story, I got married in 2009 after dating/living with STBXH since 2007. We separated in 2011. I chose to leave, I filed for divorce. I was just tired of it all. It was a loveless, controlling relationship. He purposely ignored me, wouldn't let me have friends, and he used me financially. I'm so much better without him and I'm happy that I left. I actually found out that he was cheating...but that's not even important anymore.

I met BF on OKCupid 3 months after I separated from STBXH. He is amazing and everything I've ever wanted in a man. He's kind and treats me wonderfully, and he's sexy. Ha. Our personalities just click and I couldn't ask for more.

I've been in therapy since I left my marital home in April. I'm working on my co-dependency issues with much progress and I feel like a better, more awesome person.

So yeah. Just wanted to say hey.

Liubot

Yeah, I know it was quick. I made an OKC profile to make friends and see what was out there and BF and I met on the terms of just hanging out as friends, since he was new to the area and didn't know many people. We clicked though, the first meeting and have been pretty much doting on each other since. I have been mentally checked out of my marriage since a few months into it, and I lived alone in my home because STBXH and I worked opposite schedules. It's been like I've been living alone without him for a while now, even though we shared a home. I guess it's just strange circumstances.

I've got issues with co-dependency but I'm really working hard at it. I've been progressing quite a bit and and feeling so much better.

UDscoobychick

crazyincidents:

Liubot:

I met BF on OKCupid 3 months after I separated from STBXH. He is amazing and everything I've ever wanted in a man. He's kind and treats me wonderfully, and he's sexy. Ha. Our personalities just click and I couldn't ask for more.

I've been in therapy since I left my marital home in April. I'm working on my co-dependency issues with much progress and I feel like a better, more awesome person.

 

Welcome.  We have a bunch of great women on this board.  I have to be honest with you though, I am a little side-eyeing the fact your timeline of meeting your exH, marrying him, leaving him, meeting your new BF.  Co-Dependency issues are definitely worth speaking to your therapist about.  Glad you are on it.  However, in my opinion, I would think you should have some "alone" time and work on you before adding another person to the mix.  Just my thoughts.  Usually when you don't trainwrecks do occur. 

Many women on here have different stories and are very helpful with your posts.  Most of which would agree that they worked on themselves first before entering into a new relationship.  They learned what worked for them, what didn't, and what they would or wouldn't stand for. 

Wishing you well....

Meh...while I'd normall be right there with you, Crazy, she's the one who left, so she may have been "over it" for a while before leaving, y'know?

Anyways, welcome, Liubot.

MelindaFelinda

Except that she admits she has co-dependency issues.  

So????