Someone talk me down please

C_mo

I wasn't going to post this, but I am really bothered and I need to get it out before I say something.

 Remember X-MOH whose wedding I'm now in (reluctantly)? Yesterday she came to Wyatt's birthday party. I had asked her if she could come a little early to help me make sandwiches, and she did, but as soon as someone was at the door she grabbed Wyatt and played hostess while I finished, which was fine, but then she hogged Wyatt for almost the WHOLE party!!!

After a half hour of her holding onto him, I told her to give him to me and I would take him to play with the other kids. She said 'I don't get much time with him, you can at least give me this'. I was already getting pissed off, so I said to Wyatt: 'do you want to come to Mom?', he held his hands out to me so I took him. Not even 5 minutes later she was back, and took him into the western town to play with her.

I could go on forever, but to make it short she was a rash on him the whole time. She kept telling me how much Wyatt loves her, and said at one point 'it's like he thinks I'm his second mommy' (!!!!! I could have killed). Then after we had opened gifts she picked Wyatt up again (not that he was too interested in opening gifts anyways) and told me 'take a picture of me and my baby!'...  at which point I was tempted to drop kick her.

Anyways, I've been fuming about this since it happened (which is stupid, because I should be looking back on Wyatt's party fondly, because it turned out awesome otherwise), and just now she posts this on my facebook wall:

 What an awesome birthday party for Wyatt! Had lots of fun & Wyatt did too

I wrote:  I'm glad you had fun

I totally want to overreact and write 'who are you to speak for MY child? I know he had a good time, I was there' ... but I won't. I'm just really upset about it. Am I being ridiculous? It just sounds like something I would write to someone if Wyatt and I had been to THEIR party. Lance told me not to read to far into it. Too late.

Am I being crazy? 

blueandgold749

You might be acting a bit crazy, but given the history between you two, I'm not sure that it's unwarranted.  This honestly doesn't sound like a friendship you're invested in at all, and you would probably do yourself a huge favor by bowing out of the wedding and just distancing yourself from her.

becky5858

She totally sounds like someone I would drop if she were my 'friend.'. That said, I try really hard not to get hung up on how people love my boys. My mom and dad can't stop calling Andrew 'their' baby and even my evil MIL has said it a time or two. although, if it were a friend I'd find it slightly stranger. 

In any case, I agree that this girl sounds like more trouble than she's worth.  

LauraR326

I agree with liz and becky.  this situation may not be too horrible but im pretty sure its a lot of built in frustration boiling over.  I would probably remove her out of my life...and it seems like it needs to happen sooner rather than later for your sake. 

DLpanda08

Count me in with everyone else. While I don't think this particular situation is all that bad, combined with the other stuff I can see where it would annoy the crap out of you. She seems like more trouble than the friendship is worth.

AlyciaandRich

I would have been annoyed too. I think sometimes people just dont realize and I confess to occasionally being rude when we go to family functions and I can't seem to get my child back lol.

indomesticbliss

I agree with the PP. Yeah, I think you may be overreacting on this one a little, but she sounds a little BSC and I would do a thanks, but no thanks to the wedding.

jlk67

Yeah, I agree with the others.  When you have large unresolved issues with someone, it's really easy to let the the smaller things get under your skin way more than they would if you had no other issues. 

C_mo

Thanks everyone, I figured I had gone a little off the wall with this one, and taking to Lance this morning he pointed out that we have a few people in the family who do almost the same thing, and I never so much as notice... I think it has more to do with the fact that she annoys the sh!t out of me than anything.