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(Vent) Moving anxiety
So, it's about 95% certain we'll be moving to SE London from SW London. I know it doens't seem far, but I'm concerned. Basically, some friends of ours are moving to the states and offered us their place at an amazing price. We'd get our same standard of living, but the cost is 35% less.
I know all the positives: It'll help us meet our savings goals, I can take my full year of maternity leave without having to think about money, we're currently at the top end of our rental budget in our place so if rent goes up we'd need to make some sacrifices, I know I'll meet new people through NCT and mums and tots groups, etc, etc...
But another part of me just can't help thinking that we're leaving our friends, our awesome doctor, our vet, our yoga studio, our cat sitter, our favorite restaurant! And the timing is stressful. We'd be moving two months after the baby is due, although we will likely have family in town to help us, so that will be great.
Another thing that's stressing me out is that we'll be breaking our current lease three months early (no break clause written in), and if it sits empty we'll be on the hook for the rent. The landlord agreed to start showing it after the new year which will give us three months to fill it. H isn't worried, but I am.
I know financially we're doing what's right, but I can't help but be nervous about leaving our comfort zone. Can someone give me a kick in the butt and tell me to grow up and get over it?!
Re: (Vent) Moving anxiety
Moving always brings a lot of anxiety. Trust me, I've moved 6 times in the last 9 years (that's the military for you). I've lived in some really great places, and in some not-so-great places.
It doesn't matter if you're moving down the street or across the globe, moving is always stressful for exactly the reasons you mentioned -- you're giving up the stability of your current home for something completely unknown. But you know what? No matter where I have lived, I always meet new people, find new friends, new places to go out to eat, and I generally turn the whole thing into a new adventure:-)
So yeah, my advice would be to suck it up the sh*tty parts (physically moving all of your belongings) and embrace the awesome parts (the adventure of living in a new place).
Does that help?
Grow up and get over it! Per your request. But seriously, you are making the right decision for your family from all of the pros that you have listed out. Someone once told me that having money doesn?t solve your problems, but it gives you options and flexibility.
Although you will be moving from your current location, you will gain the opportunity to find a new yoga studio, fantastic restaurants, cat sitters and meet new and exciting people. I know that timing isn?t great, but people will be able to help. I am always free to help pack! I LOVE to organise!
In regards to breaking your lease, and there is no clause in the lease, paying the rent if it remains empty that honestly sounds somewhat fishy to me. If there is no clause written into your lease then that cannot be imposed by your landlord legally, I believe. We had to break our lease in 2009 and we were only six months into a 24 month lease. My DH spent a great deal of time studying UK tenant laws, I don?t know if that is allowed. I would call the citizens advice bureau, I believe that is who we spoke with, and see outside advice. If you want further details, let me know.
But I really respect you guys for making a very grown-up decision that is going to benefit you greatly and provide you with the platform to be able to comfortably enjoy your son?s first year without the added stress of finances. Well done for being a grown-up, it?s hard sometimes! J
Thanks, guys.
Avion - I know you're right. I've moved a lot over the past few years and have been able to build a community wherever I've gone. Logically, I know I can do it again.
C&C - Interesting about the lease. I didn't think anything of it because according to our current contract, we've agree to pay X amount through June, with no break clause. Since now we're asking for a break, I assumed it sounded legit. Out last landlords said the same thing, but it rented right away and we never had to pay extra. I'll definitely look into it though.
In the meantime, do you and Mr. C&C want to move? I know a really nice place that'll be free come April!
LOL, I think we will be staying put, but I'll shoot DH an email asking who he spoke with. He was surprised at how much the laws in the UK differ to protect the landlords as opposed to the tenants. I know in the US we would not be allowed to do that as landlords and we have had tentants break our lease.
It's a free service that we contacted and it was helpful.
OMG I TOTALLY know where you're coming from
we move on Friday to a new area and I'm freaking out about not knowing where to get ANYTHING, and we don't have a new doctor there yet, etc etc
it's only half an hour away from where we are now, but it feels a world away
but I guess you just have to keep it in perspective and know that if the move is right for you things will work out - it'll take time to get used to your new area, but it will work out for the best
BTW - I lived in SW London for 6 years and I thought it was AWESOME! so you have a lot of fun new places to check out living there. I was in Putney & LOVED the area