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Whiners - enter here!!!
OK, everyone seems to be sick, sad, nervous, or whatever. There are a bunch of downer posts on here. Normally, to balance that out, we'd have a good news post or something equally puppies and rainbow-esque. But damnit, I'm still grumpy.
So complain away folks. Misery loves company and I want company!
Re: Whiners - enter here!!!
I'm incredibly sleepy. I have not been sleeping through the night, and it's starting to play my head, man! My back hurts every day. So do my ribs. H hasn't been sleeping in bed with me because his cough has been terrible and he doesn't want to keep me awake. I miss having him in bed. And I've had a cold for over a week now. I want it to go away!
It's Monday, I'm tired and my new belly piercing hurts from sleeping on my stomach.
I sent out 30 resumes to judges for a clerkship next year and haven't gotten so much as one interview yet. These positions are quickly filling for September and without a clerkship, my chance at getting a good job in family law is slim.
Also, XH is being a grade-A douche bag and the rabbi won't return our calls about getting a "Get" (Jewish divorce), which is the last string I have to XH. I just want to be done with this man already!
This might be TMI... I had to have an internal fertility exam this morning and apparently my overies are small! WTF does that mean?!? The sconographer (sp?) said I might have mild PCOS. Which my the way, I thought three years ago and my old GP blew off. This potentially could have been addressed years ago.
My GP will review the results and I have an appointment next Thursday (a week from Thursday). I was suppose to be pregnant by Christmas not have a fertility meeting with DH and our GP three days before Christmas!
I know this is my only worry in life that the moment, but damn it, it is upsettting to me. I don't care that the rest of my life is pretty damn good. I am still not happy! I am tired of looking at the positives!
Thanks rpic, I hope that's all it is. Those NJ diner waitresses are making more money than me right now and I'm seriously considering buying some black sneakers and throwing on an apron and wearing too much eye liner for my career change!
Super big hugs! I know the frustrations with TTC are tough, especially around the holidays. Vibes for a BFP or answers soon!
Complain, away, lady! First of all, I hate it when doctors brush off your concerns. In my experience, many women are pretty damn good at listening to their bodies. I hope today's tests result in a solid plan for you guys going forward and that come next year, you'll have a BFP!
I'm exhausted today after being bumped from a day flight back to London yesterday, to a red eye that got me in at 5am this morning. I had to be in the office for a 9am office, and I hardly slept at all on the flight (which is why we avoided the redeye to begin with!). My head hurts and my eyes are droopy, and I'm just looking forward to getting home and crawling into my bed tonight.
Oh yeah, my luggage also didn't make the new flight, so I'm hoping it's now in London and on its way to my flat.
Cecilia arrived 12 October 2012
Very few people know we are TTC (aside from TN) and only one person knows we are getting tested. If one more person also asks me when we will be expecting, I am going to scream. As my SIL did on the phone last Thursday her exact words were
"Mom and Dad keep wondering when they are going to get a phone call that you are pregnant, and I keep telling them any day I am expecting a call that you are pregnant!"
I said, "oh, well no."
And then she went on and said a "Christmas annoucement?"
And I said, "no surprises this Christmas."
They don't even know we are trying. We'll be married five years this Friday and these comments started a few years ago. DH and I have been open that we want children, but people have been getting really bold lately. I am so close to saying something I would regret.
DH is also so positive all the time, at times I want to strangle him! LOL.. great post idea!
Ugh. We've been married 6 years and people have been commenting for years and years about it. Our wedding card from DH's grandparents was 'We are so looking forward to great-grandchildren'. And the comments are never-ending. Having trouble conceiving is like some sort of secret that no one talks about - I had no idea how common it was until it started going wrong for us and now I'm just overwhelmed by how many people go through this.
The next time someone makes a comment, I'm likely to say something back. I swear, people just don't think. I know I didn't think before this happened so I can't blame anyone but seriously... why do people ask such freaking personal questions?
I hope you start to get some answers soon Coffee (((hugs)))
Anyway... my whine will start now. I DON'T FEEL LIKE GOING TO THE GYM. At all. Ever. Not today, not yesterday, not Saturday. I've gained 6lbs recently and I don't even care. Well, not enough to do anything about it. It's too cold and dark and I just can't get myself motivated at all. Grumble.
BFP Apr 2012, EDD Dec 19 2012 * twin h/b at 6wk, 9wk scan * Baby A lost at 12wks, Baby B was my rainbow born at 36wks
sorry, coffee. ((hugs))
my whine is that I am SO upset because I failed my driving test today :-( :-( I passed the written test this morning, so at least I didn't fail that too. I was soooo nervous, and then I ended up in an almost impossible merge situation that I apparently handled wrong. I've had my US license for 10 years, and I can't pass the stupid swedish test. I'm so disappointed, humiliated, mad, and upset. And it makes me hate sweden and living here (that feeling will pass, I'm sure). I went through all the trouble to learn stick shift, got good at it, and failed my test because of a stupid merge, which I can usually do in my sleep. ugh. SO upset :-( and I hate Sweden and their stupid hard driving tests.
{{hugs}} C&C. I hope you have a great appt next week and put together a plan
I hear you. I was so embarrassed when I failed my UK test this summer, especially on something really stupid - I turned and started driving on the right (WRONG!) side of the road
, which I had never done since moving here. And that was on the first turn I made. Take comfort in the fact that you actually are a good driver, and would have passed it if not for that one mistake. You'll ace it next time, and then you'll be able to laugh about it.
Cecilia arrived 12 October 2012
I'm sorry you failed too, sushi, but that seriously makes me feel so much better, that I'm not the only one! I feel like such an idiot. But that's the first thing all day that's made me feel any better, so thank you :-) Especially that I am a good driver, and even the guy said I would've passed if it wasn't for that. Glad to hear you passed on the second try, hopefully I will too (test is next week).
Ooh I'll join in too if you don't mind...
My complaint is that I'm spending Christmas alone. Yep completely alone. There are several whines that go with this... that my mom is going crazy excited about having xmas in Jan (when I will be home) and it p!sses me off that she didn't just offer me the money that she is spending on presents to help with my plane tickets... it annoys me that of everyone I know here, I only got 1 invite for xmas, but then that was taken back because other family is now coming... I'm just a bit shocked because I feel like in the US if someone has no plans, you invite them to yours, whoever they are. Not so in the UK. Immediate family only. I'm just over it and so ready to move but have to sit and wait and save money...
But I feel like a right Scrooge with everyone excited for Christmas. I usually love it. I've never not been with my family. This is going to suck majorly. I just want it to come and go already and for it to be 2012!!
I'm sorry Laurimi - if we hadn't been invited to a friend's house for Xmas, we'd happily have you over. Are you around for the 27th? I might have a game night that evening, that anyone is welcome to come to.
My moan - I have my period right now and it's a ***. I have to go to fertility testing on Weds (must be between day 2 & day 5 of one's period). And I'm mentally exhausted due to work - it's killing me. I can't wait for my Christmas holiday. Can't wait.
Laurimi - you're welcome to join us here in the Wimbledon area, if you'd like! We're having lunch with some of our British friends, just the four us of (and two babies), so it'll be pretty low-key. It'll be very weird not having family here!
My whine - Georgia has been sick (which I know will happen). She is not getting better. It has been like 5 days now. We've been to A&E because of the croup and now she has some sort of bad cold/virus. She threw up twice today, and now all the sheets on my bed are dirty and need to be washed. It sucks doing that in our washer/dryer machine. The last time I tried to dry our duvet cover (and just the cover!) it took 4 hours. 4 hours! This is going to be like a 3 day project to wash/dry the 5 outfits that Georgia ruined today, the 2 that I got ruined and all the sheets from our bed and hers. Ugh. I hate that our washing machine is so terrible. All I can think is that if we were back in the States, I could do 2-3 loads and it would be all done in one day. And dried. Ugh.
You finally got that appt. Ah. So frustrating.
We need to get together and catch up.
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You finally got that appt. Ah. So frustrating.
We need to get together and catch up.
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Finding a new college to transfer to is giving me so much stress. Add to that the amount of student loans I will need to finish my degree. I just don't know what to do. Worst part is I'm running out of time. I kind of just want to be a stay at home wife / nanny.
Also I'm been really tired lately. Last night I went to bed at 11 and got up at 4:30 because I couldn't sleep any longer. Sunday I had to take a 4 hour nap. It was the same thing for Saturday. Up really early and needing to take a nap. I really just hope it's stress.
2012 Reading Challenge
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My H has been in hospital for something like 10 weeks now. He'll be there for probably at least another 3 or 4. Maybe longer. Although we are springing him for 2 hours on Sunday to celebrate Christmas with his family next weekend we will be spending Christmas day at the hospital. It won't feel like Christmas at all. We won't exchange gifts between the two of us until he comes home. I can't bring him any treats because he's on a special diet. Right now the only idea I've got is that we watch Christmas movies together that day.
And I have a second whine. The second part of my permanent visa application has arrived and I have 60 days from the date it was sent to me to complete it and get it back to the immigration dept. I lost a week of that just in the mail. So now I'm having to stress trying to gather all the documentation and hand out stat decs like they are candy and pull it all together by myself because H can't do a darn thing to help me from his hospital bed except fill out his own stat dec.
The 60 days just weren't going to work for us since everything was being sent to a really old email address and we didn't find out about it until about 30 days out. We just asked for an extension and it was granted with no problem.
And not to add to your stress, but you will also need to arrange to have your H's Stat Dec, witnessed and "notarized" from his hospital bed. The list they provide of applicable witnesses is long, but I found (at least here in QLD) most of them refused to do it or weren't allowed to under QLD law. Yeah, even the police wouldn't do it.
Coffee & Cream - I hear you on the fertility stuff and idiot doctors missing stuff...we both went through testing three years ago on the NHS and they said we had no problems. We just went through private fertility testing and it turns out my H has some issues...it would have taken five minutes for the NHS to have seen this issue but they didn't. So we wasted three years. THREE. And at my age, three years wasted is huge. I know we should have done the private thing earlier but we're just now figuring out how to pay for potential IVF now (we were buying a house three years ago). Overall I love the NHS, but sometimes it does suck.
Thanks we were already aware our stat decs need witnessing. One of the vocations listed is nurses so hopefully one of them will be willing. If not, my SIL has a JP friend who will come up and do it for us. That is ONE thing I am not worried about.
I'm heading back to the the States tomorrow sans FI. My visa expires on Jan 1 and I didn't apply for the post-study visa because without a job we couldn't afford the visa. So, I'm 32 and am going home to live with my parents.
I just feel like this move to the UK was such a waste of my life. Yes, I got a Masters but I'm unemployed, we are living in London on one wage so our quality of life took a major nose-dive with the move. I left a job I loved and a place I loved to come to what I refer to as "This Damn Island.'
So I'm glad I'm going back to the States where I can have the job I want and a better quality of life, but FI and I will be long-distance yet again. Ugh.
London - That really sucks, I'm sorry about that : (
Here is my whine for the day, and it's a long one.
First up is that my aunt is having a relapse. My original Black Friday plan was to spend a long comfortable day in my PJ's, but we got a call from my aunt's neighbor saying she was running around with no pants on talking to herself. This is her second mental breakdown in two years, and we spent about 7 hours in the ER with her. She just got out of the mental hospital Wednesday. Over the weekend we got another call from this neighbor (who, btw, is a total creeper) saying she's relapsing. Then we get a call from my aunt saying she's had a heart attack, which is something we don't believe because she was also saying some completely off the wall stuff, so it looks like tomorrow we will be driving back up to see if we can't figure out wtf is going on with her now.
Two - I have been working for the past 7 weeks straight with very few off days ( I travel OOT for my work, so off days are SO important to me). I was looking forward to 4 whole off days in a row (WOOHOO) but so far my first off day was spent chauffeuring around my friend that helped us out on this last shoot (he has no job, no money, no car, etc). Enjoyed spending time with him, but got nothing done. Spent most of today bringing him home (4 hr round trip) and the rest of the day drunk (see below).
Three - My dad has said (yet again) we might lose the house. He keeps going back and forth, and I just can't take it anymore. Our business is shutting down and just after the new year he's going up to IL to go to truck driving school. For three weeks we will be going with only my moms part time minimum wage income which she always blows in two days on God knows what (Dad and I suspect substance abuse) and then for 30 days after that he will be earning $300 per week during on the job training. So in 7 weeks he will be earning $1200. This isn't mentioning the fact that I will also be out of a job.
Four - My mom has become intolerable lately. Today she screamed at me for eating two cookies sitting out on the stove, when she hadn't told anyone that she was saving them for herself (she ate most of them herself when they were fresh). She also has been giving dad the silent treatment because he wouldn't give her cash to go to work with, even though she should have plenty of money since she got paid over $100 Friday and dad gave her gas money and pays all her bills.
Five - I have been considering just eloping and using my wedding funds to pay off what dad's behind on the house. He got really behind a few months ago and they put him on a repayment plan, but now that's been cancelled and if he doesn't come up with x amount of money in y amount of time we're getting foreclosed on. My FI is taking me to New Orleans because my gay uncles are in a Krewe and my uncle is reigning king and and their annual Mardi Gras ball is in January, and I'm considering going to the quickie wedding chapel in the French Quarter and getting married. It breaks my heart that I won't have the big wedding surrounded by family, but I can't justify to myself spending a ton of money on a wedding when it could save my family's house. (Hence getting friendly with a bottle of cheap wine). This would also mean making the move to the UK several months earlier and leaving my family and friends earlier - although I guess I won't feel as guilty about leaving if I'm the one that saves the house.
Ha, I've out bitched you all. Although getting it all out made me feel a bit better, I'm still considering going out for more wine -.-
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