Dear Kyle (RHOBH)

kriss08

I do not know the woman who posted this on bravotv.com in response to Kyle blog, but what she said in my opinion is what many of us would like to say. Once again this is my opinion and btw, i found out today the twins sex. Drumroll please, BOY AND GIRL YAY!!!!!

Dear Kyle

Some of us have walked in her shoes more then a mile and lived through days, months and sometimes years of horrific abuse. We didn't act out that horrible secret for the cameras. We didn't sell that story to people magazine for cash though we desperately needed it. We didn't go around telling anyone who would listen, and then turn around and get angry because our storyline wasn't going exactly as we schemed because a caring friend begged us to finally be honest about the abuse. We didn't use tales of alleged abuse as a tool to manipulate others into putting up with unacceptable behavior - screaming, namecallng - from us. We didn't threaten people that we'd "Take them out back and go Oklahoma" on them if they simply disagreed with our point of view. Nor did we cry that our friends were all liars in one breath, then run to the next person and call those very friends who were concerned for us "chickens" in the very next breath. When confronted with the truth by one caring friend, we didn't turn to a buddy and ask why everyone wasn't still attacking another friend, one who had offered her home to us but whose offer was somehow not attractive enough for us to take, or perhaps necessary. Finally, we didn't tell people that we had a friend for "back-up" purposes, in the event that another friend mght try to apologize to us for making a mistake that came from a very real place of caring about us.

We didn't do any of those things because we were too busy just trying to survive. We cried real tears, had real broken jaws and real bruises. We had real visits to the emergency room and real surgeries to repair all-too-real injuries inflicted by our significant others. Some of us lived through name-calling and were degraded on a daily basis, some of us were held prisoners in our own homes without access to family friends, money or health care.Some of us didn't make it out without being permanently injured or paralyzed, and some didn't make it out at all.

Most of us did not have the financial resources to get away and make it alone, nor did we have multiple wealthy friends imploring us to live with them for free in order to keep our child out of harm's way. Most of us would have given anything for even one of those avenues of hope in attempting to safeguard our children from an abusive environment, including given up our lives for them. Some of us did. So Kyle, you needn't tell us not to judge what we see being acted out on television. You are right, we haven't walked in her shoes. However, we have walked in our own painful, cheap shoes. Our shoes were not Loubitins or Jimmy Choo?s, and our worries weren't regarding $50,000 parties for our children, or imagined slights by a friend who extended her own home to us to keep our children safe, or even anger at a friend who wanted us to get honest and offered to give us help if we would. Our shoes were nothing at all like Taylor's.

Expo86

Really? All this was address to Kyle because she asked people to walk a mile in Taylor's shoes before judging

Shouldn't all of that be address to Taylor since it's her actions and statements they are talking about?

6fsn

I don't get why it's adressed to Kyle either.  It also kind of feels like this person is saying the abuse isn't as bad because Taylor is rich. 

JessicaLovesBrian

I worked in a domestic violence counseling center for awhile.  I have seen stories which range from stereotypical to bizarre.  I have seen victims that were on welfare and could barely afford to feed their children and victims who were super wealthy and drove away from the center in Mercedes and walked out on shoes with red heels.  IMO if this person who wrote that letter is a victim of DV (which it seems she implies) then she should feel ashamed that she dare judge what Taylor was doing to survive. And how dare she imply that because Taylor lived a wealthy lifestyle that it was less serious and that she should have just upped and left.  As a victim of DV that lady should know that "just leaving him" isn't as easy as it sounds.

destination09

JessicaLovesBrian:

I worked in a domestic violence counseling center for awhile.  I have seen stories which range from stereotypical to bizarre.  I have seen victims that were on welfare and could barely afford to feed their children and victims who were super wealthy and drove away from the center in Mercedes and walked out on shoes with red heels.  IMO if this person who wrote that letter is a victim of DV (which it seems she implies) then she should feel ashamed that she dare judge what Taylor was doing to survive. And how dare she imply that because Taylor lived a wealthy lifestyle that it was less serious and that she should have just upped and left.  As a victim of DV that lady should know that "just leaving him" isn't as easy as it sounds.

ITA with you

fl4lovers

Um, Kyle's my favorite....so.....

 

People who are rich (Taylor) don't suffer abuse? Um, yeah....right.....her DH KILLED himself!!!!! I think rich people have problems too.....

What's the 90's song? Mo Money, Mo Problems?