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In Laws
So I put this on the "family matters" board and they really only told me I was being immature and my husband was a loser but didn't really give me any advice....yes this whole thing may be immature, but my husband loves his bro regardless of how he is and he loves me regardless....This isn't the whole story so if you have any questions, just email me or post it ( katie.marsh@hotmail.com )
Ok, like most people I definately have Monster in laws lol. They drive me and my husband absolutely nuts! My MIL and BIL are the worst. SIL only gets to me on occasion and my FIL is wonderful.
Ok, lets start with the BIL. I'll put it to you this way, the day we got home from our out of town wedding, he was there....he's over EVERY weekend and it's driving me crazy. My husband tries to dilute the situation by telling him that he can come over after I go to bed, so then he's calling every 20 min ( on the dot, not exaggerating ) to see if I'm asleep yet. And I've tried dealing with it when he comes over, I try to have a good time, but he's one of those guys that have the little man syndrome but its skinny man syndrome. He's really tall and skinny, thinks he knows absolutley everything and if you disagree with him, holy cow....big argument starts and he does get very upset..its not just a debate. Not only that, but he comes over completely smashed from drinking ALL DAY and is a total jerk. I disagree with drunk driving, but no one can tell him what to do, its "his world and he owns it". When he comes over, he tells us what to do, how to spend our money, and when our animals can come in the house. Don't think my husband doesn't do anything about it, he does every time, but he doesn't change. The great thing about it is that I finally put my foot down, and told my BIL he wasn't allowed over until he stops acting the way he is. Haven't seen him in a month now and its so awesome.
The night before our wedding ( which we had out of town so everyone was in the hotel/casino for the weekend ) he started a huge conflict with my husband. Ok, what happened was, his little sister was in the hotel room alone and scared herself and couldn't get a hold of everyone and called my husband to come and sit with her until their parents got back. So he did, and when he got there he called his brother because his fathers phone was turned off and he asked where every one was and told him what was going on. His brother proceeded to call him a name ( has to do with a female part ) and that really upset my husband because there was no reason for it so his brother came to the hotel room. His brother started pushing him and then his dad, mom and his brothers Gf walked in. His brother told every one to shut the f up and get the f out. Well some how, this all got turned into my husbands fault. His dad looked at him, stuck his finger in his face and said " you are always ruining our fun, this is why we never do anything with you" and my MIL is crying histarically. So then I get a call from my MIL saying she wouldn't be going to the wedding, etc. That explains how my night went, dealing with a bunch of drunk in laws.
Ok so now I'll tell you about my MIL. I've been with my husband for over 3 years ( only married for 5, hence the tittle lol ) so there's a lot to sort threw. The day I met her she was drunk, I shoulda gotten a clue then. Oh gosh, where to start....I'll start with the wedding...when we told her we were getting married, she proceeded to tell flat out lies and insults about us to her family. I've never met any of them considering they live across the US but when I do meet them, they are going to already have an idea in their head that is wrong. His aunt and uncle, who I love to death and are the only ones I've met and talk to regularly, actually forwarded me all the emails she had sent to them, and all the rest of the family.... here they are...they are all her responses to his aunt and uncles questions, so they are different emails, hence why they might not make sense. lol
In-laws (to be), Lucas and Adrienne are planning on getting married by the end of the year,they like to take their time and Terence likes to rush into every thing or get rushed into it.
Terence and Katie are using Katie's sister's and Amanda was not asked,Terence and Katie are having a 10 min ceremony , not my choice but theirs we have had nothing to say about the wedding,Terence & Katie have only been working with her Mom & Dad, Terence does what ever Miss Katie wants.
Lucas and Adrienne are a different story, Adrienne is very different then Katie, Adrienne is planning a wedding that includes us all, and is going to be a real wedding in town at a church with her Pastor, and I believe Amanda will be included in theirs. Terence and Katie just want to get married a sap and her parents have all the say and Poor Terence just go's were he is told. I love him very much, but he lets others have their way and he just settles.
He's a great kid and will soon learn what happens when you let others decided your life.
They fight a lot, we just love him and pray for the best, because that's what he should have, you can't tell your kids how to live life you can only try to guide them and just love them and be there when it falls a part.
Wouldn't you be hurt by these? I was devistated when I read these, considering how nice she was, for the most part to my face...when she wasn't on a drunkin rage. The thing I was most upset about was the whole "real wedding" and us not including his sister....we asked her face to face in front of everyone including my MIL if she would like to be our flower girl. She said yes, but MIL later scared her out of it by making her nervous, saying she would have to run down the aisle in front of everyone because the ceremony was only 10 min. long. For the record the ceremony was 30 min long lol
I feel like his whole side of the family looks down on us because we are so young and we couldn't afford to have a big extravagent wedding. I think our wedding was perfect for us. BIL is always telling my husband stuff like "i'm too young, I wouldn't know anything" and that gets under my skin soooo bad. BIL's drinking has gotten waaaaay out of control and I don't think any one knows exactly how bad its gotten, not even us.
If you got this far, thanks for reading and please give some advice
Re: In Laws
Obviouslly I am stuck in the same situation.
My MIL gets home from work and the first thing she doess is pop open a beer and take a vicoden or soma and drink the rest of the night away. She is racist and prejudice and never has anything nice to say.
It drives me crazy and I wish I had some advice for you.
All I can say is you are not alone!