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Getting frustrated
In the last 2 weeks, I have called 4 different lawyers trying to find someone to help me get this divorce started. But not a single one has called me back! I make sure to clearly state my name and number both at the beginning and end of the message. My thought was that I would hear back within a couple days. Is this standard or am I just finding the bad eggs?
Re: Getting frustrated
I can definitely sympathize with this. It is really, really hard to find people who are willing to help sometimes. My xh and I definitely had a hard time when we were going through the divorce process with finding people who could offer advice or guidance for us throughout the process.
Keep at it, and talk to other people who have gone through this in your area so you can get a recommendation.
I called a lawyer who was recommended to me by someone (another lawyer) and I got on the phone with him that day and was in the office to see him a few hours later. Often recommendations from former clients or other lawyers will get better results than just a, "Hi, I want to talk about a divorce, please call me back"
Lawyers aren't going to spend a lot of time with you if you pose the call as an exploratory one. If you say, "Hi, I'm LadyL and I want to file for divorce ASAP" maybe you'll get better results?
Also, a lot of people are on vacation with the holidays approaching. The attys who are not on vacation are picking up the slack for the ones who are away. While this is important to you right now, they are focusing on current clients whose needs must be met, not prospective ones.
Try email and stopping by offices.
Call their assistants until you get a response. Some lawyers are just super busy.
I will try calling again this week. Two of them were referrals from friends. I tried to phrase it as "Hello. My name is LadyL and my numbers is xxx-xxx-xxxx. I was given your name by XYZ who told me you helped her in regards to her divorce. I am divorcing my husband and in need of a lawyer. If you could call me back, I would appreciate it. Again, my name is LadyL and my number is xxx-xxx-xxxx. Thank you."
Maybe it would be better to wait until after the holidays? I am compiling all of the financial information I will need for the divorce. As far as I know STBXH doesn't have any of it and has not asked for it. I was the one in charge of our finances. This should prove interesting.