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prayers and advice please..
I'm pretty sure that my BFF has had a MC. Her HCG and progestrone #s were never good. She got her last blood draw about 2 weeks ago. She had an apointment yesterday at 2:00. I talked to her right before and she said she would call me after her apointment. She was supposed to have a u/s. I have not heard from her. I sent her 2 text messages, but she didn't text back. I'm thinking that can't be good news. She lives in my neighborhood and last night her and her H's cars were home.
I don't want to push too hard. I send a msg saying 'call me when you feel like it.' I want to giver her her space, but I want to be there for her too.
This baby would have been my first godchild. I'm so sad for her, but I don't know what I can do. I know some of you ladies have been there. what do you think?
Re: prayers and advice please..
I can't imagine. She will be going through a lot of emotions right now. I know when my last IF failed the last thing I wanted to do was talk to people. It was nothing personal but I had to get through my feelings before I could even talk to something, even through text. I probably wouldn't send her anymore messages as she knows you are there for her and when will talk when she is ready.
I would just be there for her when she is ready. Listen to her because I am sure she will have lots of emotions, questions, frustrations, etc. Just be that shoulder for her. When she is ready maybe take her out for pedis or manis or something.
Someone might have better advice but this was what it was for me.
Let her contact you when she is ready. I would not try to contact her anymore and give her some space. She knows that you will be there for her when she is ready. She might not want to talk to anyone now. I know that is the last thing that I wanted to do.
Is this her first? Then she might not want to talk to someone that has kids or be around kids, KWIM?
Baby #2 - D&E - 10/1/10 @ 19w2d - thanatophoric dysplasia confirmed.
Charlotte Lillian will be forever in our hearts.
Baby #3 - Little Bean - natural miscarriage - 1/17/11 @ 5w5d
Thanks ladies. I talked to her H earlier and he told me that the u/s was not good and she will have a D&C next monday. That's all he said. I'm going to leave her alone and let her call me whenever. I think I will make food for them on Sunday night and have her H come and pick it up so I don't have to bug her and she doesn't have to see or hear my kids. Now, I have to get Luke and Vivi to understand that their Nanny (godmother) doesn't have a baby in her belly anymore....that's going to be rough...I'll have to keep them away from her for a while I think..
I'm sad that she has to have the D&C..I was hoping that could be avoided..
Just say a prayer please.