addressing cards question

maria120

What is the proper way to address a holiday card to a family where the husband and wife have different last names?  Normally I would address the card to the "xxxx family", but I wasn't sure how that worked with two last names. 

flower_lover

Per etiquette guides, you are supposed to list them in alphabetical order: such as Mr. Peter Anderson and Mrs. Jane Smith.

sjb&apa

We're one of those couples - our cards just come addressed to "Andy Axxxx and Sara Bxxxxx." Or vice versa, not everyone follows the alphabetical name rule. Most people put the name of the person they know best first (cards from my family and friends have my name listed first, those from Andy's family and friends list his name first). 

My FIL addresses our cards to Andy and Sara Axxxx, because he refuses to accept that I didn't change my name. 

JLeeler

I will do as suggested above unless there is a full family, in which case I will write:

The Anderson Johnson Family

jennyk213

JLeeler:

I will do as suggested above unless there is a full family, in which case I will write:

The Anderson Johnson Family

Just curious...what's a full family? 

We usually get cards to DH xxxxx and Jenny XXXX, although there are a few that just use DH's last name. This year someone put "Jenny and DH (whatever your last names are)" which made me laugh.

maria120

They have kids and I wanted to address it to the whole family rather than just the two adults like I have in the past.  They've referred to themselves as the "husbands last name" family, so I wasn't sure if that was correct or not?  Maybe I'll just keep it simple and address to both parents like I have every other year

sjb&apa

For families where the parents have different last names and there are kids, I address cards to "John Doe and Jane Smith & Family".

 

maria120

sjb&apa:

For families where the parents have different last names and there are kids, I address cards to "John Doe and Jane Smith & Family".

 

Thanks--that's what I'll do!