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Job/Sanity/Normalcy vibes please!
Ok, so I rarely ask for vibes but I'm asking now and would appreciate any vibes/positive thoughts.
I've been doing really well since I left XH in June but I could really use a break in life. I've applied to crazy amounts of judges for a clerkship next year, which would greatly improve my chances in getting a job the year after (if I don't get a clerkship I will likely have to give up my dream and get a non-legal job to pay the bills because the market is so overflooded with lawyers--most of whom have more experience than me).
XH has done a number on both my sanity and self esteem. I'm in therapy and doing well, all things considered, but his latest bout of "I hope you die in a car crash...I wouldn't come to your funeral even if you were dead...except to spit on your grave" has me rattled and has me actually fearing for the safety of myself and my family. Unfortunately, this behavior isn't enough to get a restraining order, but more than enough to fvck with my head.
I could really use some vibes, please. XH will be out of my life soon enough (we get our religious divorce on Sunday) but I really need a new job in the future and to get out of this emotional rut. Thanks.
Re: Job/Sanity/Normalcy vibes please!
Vibes that you get a job you like soon and A LOT of vibes that your XH stays out of your life forever.
And sending lots of hugs that things start to look up for you in 2012.
I'm sending job vibes, starting over vibes, and awesome self esteem vibes!
You are awesome, and you are free to be whomever you want to be, in spite of what your ex says or does. Just remember, he doesn't matter anymore! I know how easy it is to let things get to you. My ex is generally pretty good, but he can still hurt my feelings with just a look or a few words, and I have to keep reminding myself that he's free to think whatever he wants, because I'm happy being who I am and doing what I want to do. What he thinks doesn't matter anymore.
Um, wow. I can't believe he is saying things like that to you! How horrible of him! I don't understand why he has so much anger toward you - you weren't the problem in the relationship.
Just, wow. I'm sorry you're going through that.
I hope that a new career comes through for you shortly in the new year. I'm sorry, I'm still kind of speachless after reading what your ex husband has been saying to you. That is just terrible.
Chronically hilarious - you'll split your stitches!
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Thanks ladies, I appreciate the positive thoughts. I'm trying not to let him get to me. Thankfully my lawyer is helping tie up some loose ends and I will be done with him soon enough.
I appreciate your kind words. I feel like a whiny baby after all you've been through that this is what I come on asking for. Thank you, really.
He is like his mother who harbors anger towards others forever and will always be a miserable person. It was a big red flag when he told his living mother during an argument (his father is deceased) that, "The wrong parent died". That's just the kind of person he is.
Sending you lots of vibes for finding a good job and XH staying out of your life.
You definitely deserve to be happy and to move on without fear. I hope things turn around for you and that you continue to keep your positive outlook.
2012 will be so much better, Em!
Sending tons of [[[anti-psycho]]] vibes your way. You're an amazing woman and an unstoppable force! We love you.
Couldn't have said it any better!!
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My sweet friend, know I am thinking of you and sending you lots of vibes.
Also , I KNOW you. I have had the pleasure of seeing how absolutely wonderful you are, how stunningly beautiful and incredibly kind, funny and smart. You deserve the world hon and don't let XH ever ever ever convince you that you don't. T
I hope things pick up for your very soon.
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For real XH said cr@p like that? That's beyond being a jerk/bitter, etc... that's troubled. Seriously. He really should consider counseling because that level of negative fixation is just disturbing. I get no one loves their ex, but for Godsakes, after 6mos, haven't you had time to take stock, assume some level of responsibility, and just kind of want to move forward w/ your own life rather than tearing down or even really dealing with your ex?
Anyhoo-- sorry for the drama and very good luck with the clerkship!
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I'm sending lots of vibes to you!
You certainly deserve some happiness in 2012 and I really hope you get it!
You shouldn't feel like a whiny baby at all. What you've gone through is horrible and heartwrenching and I would still be an emotional trainwreck in your shoes. Going through something stressful, frightening and life changing be it physically or emotionally is going to be hard and you should be able to lean on the support and positive thoughts of your friends.
I don't think that vibes and things help stuff all that much - (if I did, I would have been hitting up all the online prayer groups I could find!) but reading messages and words of support and encouragement, similar stories and idiotic quips (usually mine, sorry) can be a real personal boost and we all need that sometimes.
I really hope that things turn around for you in 2012 and that even if you don't get that job, you don't give up on your ambition in the legal field - maybe you'll go international again on your own, maybe you'll find something more local to where you want to be... who knows.
Hmmm... wanna spend the next three months on a tropical island thinking about it? He he he.
Chronically hilarious - you'll split your stitches!
I wrote a book! Bucket list CHECK!
http://notesfortheirtherapist.blogspot.co.uk
I'm super late, but wanted to let you know that I'm pulling for you and hope that you find some peace from all this soon. You deserve so much better, and I hope that 2012 brings you a great job and all the sanity and normality that you want.
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