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S/O Christmas - IL gifts
Do you buy something individually for your in-laws, or does everything come from you and your spouse/significant other?
My husband and I are having a debate about this. I've always bought his parents something that was from me personally, because they've always been really generous to me, even when we were first dating. When I mentioned needing to buy them a nice bottle of wine this year, he said not to bother, and that everything is from both of us now that we're married. And then, like a week later, he called me while he was out shopping to ask about something he was going to buy my mother. So I reminded him of the "everything is from both of us" conversation, and he said he knew, but that he felt badly because my mom always buys him something.
I am pretty sure he's trying to make me crazy at this point. So how do you all handle it?
Re: S/O Christmas - IL gifts
We buy everything as a couple.
Most years, all the kids (DH has 3 siblings and 1 BIL has a gf) all go in one one gift for ILs- like a weekend stay at a B&B, Red Sox/Yankees tickets, and this year we are buying them an Ipad.
I thought we give gifts as a couple too, but for some reason my H feels like he needs to do an extra small gift from him to my family members. I sign both of our names on all of the gifts that I pick out, and I try to do a little extra since it is from two of us, so I'm not sure why he feels the need to get his own as well. Usually it is something like scratch tickets, so not a huge gift. I don't do anything extra for his family.
Are your parents and his parents married? Assuming they are, the way I see it is, you are probably not getting a gift from his mom and a gift from his dad, you would get a gift from his mom and dad together, and so would your H. And then you and your H together would give a gift to his mom, and a gift to his dad. Does that make sense? If they're divorced/widowed/remarried/etc then I can see it being a bit trickier.
That's what I thought, too, until he lost his d*mn mind, heh.
Thanks, everyone!