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Stormchasersbride
I was trying to remember why your name was familiar, and I realized I remembered your budget post from the MM board.
First, I want to say that I am very sorry for the situation you find yourself in. Being a student/pregnant on bedrest/feeling the trust in your marriage has been compromised/worrying about money are all difficult things, and dealing with them together has to feel really overwhelming. I wish you the best of luck and hope you get this sorted out.
That being said, I am really troubled by a lot of the things you post, so I am going to weigh in with a little advice. You told a very different story in your budget post about your current situation/plans. I think some of the things I read in your budget post might explain a lot about what is going on here.
Also, I am a lawyer and now professor who has lived in both LA and Tucson with my attorney husband, so I have some random insight into your situation. The things you post about your law school program are really, well, bad signs. As an academic I can assure that no law school worth its salt will rec that you dont work at some point (including summers) your second year. The best part about going to a good law school is that they hook you up with OCI to find jobs starting as early as the summer after 1L year. This gives you the opportunity to "try on" different firms or areas. I suspect this means that you are at a non-accredited law school, or a tier 3 or 4. It is great that you are doing really well in law school, that is an awesome accomplishment regardless of the school you are at, but you need to think seriously about other career paths as a back-up plan, particularly if your marriage is on the rocks.
It is tough out there right now. I see my students with great grades from a highly ranked law school struggling to get contract work. Please consider what I am saying. Maybe it would be a good idea to make and appt. at career services once the baby comes so you can talk more about your options and what to expect. I would hate to see you find yourself in a situation where you can't make decisions about your marriage/family because your financial situation is too precarious. Good luck.
Sorry for the typos, nesting from phone.
Re: Stormchasersbride
I hope your read through your OP. Even if much of it was what you didn't want to hear, I think there must have been some pretty astute insight for you. Otherwise, I don't imagine you would have deleted.
Best of luck.
Thank you! I did read through every response. I even printed it out. I am taking everything said into consideration.
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