POLL: If you got married at 30 yo or older...

rayskit10

A friend of mine is a photographer and had this conversation going on her FB about brides over 30 having a "name" for the group, i.e. 2nd timers are called "re-brides" or something like that, basically acknowledging brides in subgroups with different needs/requirements.

She said they are commonly called "mature brides" or "Later in life brides."

I was married at 32 and felt neither of these names applied to me at the time. What do you think of these labels? Can you think of anything else that describes brides in this age group? Do you think being in your 30s is different than 40s? 

7107bride

smart?

I didn't get married after 30, but I don't agree with either of those labels.

michellebelle

7107bride:

smart?

I didn't get married after 30, but I don't agree with either of those labels.

This.  I was married just before I turned 29 but if I married 1 year later and someone called me a later in life bride I'd rip his face off.  Ok not really but I'd imagine doing it a la Ally McBeal fantasy.

I do think it's different to get married in your 30s vs. 40s.  If you go to school, work a bit, go to grad school, and THEN get married you are very likely to be in your early 30s.  The extra decade to 40 makes a big difference in the life changes of the same person and his/her friends.

 

Mrs.JulesH-S

I have never given a second thought to the age of the bride or groom.

almond1123

7107bride:

smart?

Bwahhh.  That's the first word that popped into my head too. 

I got married at 31. Neither of those descriptions fit.  Hellz I don't know that "mature" or "later in life" describe me now

melrrr

yeah, I don't feel like any of those names applied to me. I was 33. Even if I got married now at 37 I wouldn't like them. 

I don't think there is a good name or a need for a name for brides in their 30s and 40s.  

HumpyPuppy

I got married at 38. Had my kid at 40. I never think of the choices I made for me as "mature, old, etc.". For me, I consider it "smart" or "the right decision".

april16

I did not get married until I was 37 and so glad I waited!

I think smart is the best choice as well!

ILiketoRun

I don't see the need to label brides in their 30s. I got married at 33 and would be pretty offended if I was labeled as a "mature" or "later in life"  bride.  Yes, you probably don't have the same wedding if you marry in your 30s or 40s as a 22 year old would have, but a bride is a bride and should be treated with dignity. For example, I didn't have a bouquet toss or a dollar dance and didn't invite everyone I knew plus all of my parents' friends, etc.  We paid for our wedding ourselves and did it our way.   If I were a photographer, I'd probably nix the idea of labeling brides. 

CareBear01

I think your friend is playing with fire IMO.  I don't even know if I like the "re-bride" thing - what if you had a bad 1st marriage and don't really want to be reminded of it?

HumpyPuppy

Let me add that as a photographer who does many weddings, I've never even heard that before. No one I know within the wedding community I work within has ever labeled a bride that way.

FutureMrsJW

almond1123:

7107bride:

smart?

Bwahhh.  That's the first word that popped into my head too. 

I got married at 31. Neither of those descriptions fit.  Hellz I don't know that "mature" or "later in life" describe me now

This was the first thing that popped into my head too.  Not to say that people can't have successful marriages in their 20s.  None of those labels are a good fit, then or now.

TexasSmith

I don't think any labels are necessary, including "smart." I don't think someone who waits is any smarter than someone who gets married young.

mom2ll

I got married at 29.  I don't think another year would have made me any more "mature".  Honestly, I think I would call it NORMAL.  It's a fact that people are waiting longer to get married. 

txbootsy

bpaullo:

I got married at 29.  I don't think another year would have made me any more "mature".  Honestly, I think I would call it NORMAL.  It's a fact that people are waiting longer to get married. 

I agree with this, I was 30 when I got married. DH was 28! (haha)

Borski2B

TexasSmith:

I don't think any labels are necessary, including "smart." I don't think someone who waits is any smarter than someone who gets married young.

Thank you for this. I married at 23 and I hope others don't assume we're too young and dumb to know what we're doing. Granted, that's what my parents probably thought. No one needs that kind of judgement though. You can have a mature 20 something or an immature 30 or 40 something... age is just a number.  

OUKatie

CareBear01:

I think your friend is playing with fire IMO.  I don't even know if I like the "re-bride" thing - what if you had a bad 1st marriage and don't really want to be reminded of it?

This. A family friend just got remarried over the weekend. She's in her mid-20s. Her ex-h (a minister, btw) hit her a few months after the wedding and threw her against a wall. She walked out and never looked back. I'm glad that she's found the right guy for her. She doesn't deserve a label other than brave.

Suzi-G-

txbootsy:

bpaullo:

I got married at 29.  I don't think another year would have made me any more "mature".  Honestly, I think I would call it NORMAL.  It's a fact that people are waiting longer to get married. 

I agree with this, I was 30 when I got married. DH was 28! (haha)

LOL same, or almost, I was 29 and DH was 26

Quizzle

I got married just shy of 34.. I don't see the need for any labels. And yeah, calling me 'mature' or 'later in life' doesn't seem to fit. 

 

I just didn't happen to meet my husband until I was 32, and we got married shortly thereafter.  

KelleyA

Normal?  I got married at 23 which I would say is probably too young for most people, but DH and I were together for 7 years at that point.  We've been married for over 8.5 years now and I wouldn't change it for anything.  I feel that getting married when you're older than 28 is pretty much normal.  

I don't necessarily see a need for any kind of label, but I don't think "mature" is necessarily a bad thing.  I think a mature bride is someone that's over 40 and never been married... they're most definitely mature and know what they're looking for more than a 30 year old and most definitely more than a 23 year old. 

04JaxBride

i was 29 1/2 when i got married.

it worked well for me!  i definitely don't think "mature" has ever been a word i'd use to label myself, not in the "old" way, anyway.

i also don't think that most 30 year olds getting married are on their second wedding.

i've never heard a bride called a "re-bride".  i don't really refer to my brides as mature or later in life.  they're brides.

KNJepp

To me, a "mature" bride sounds like someone getting married in their 50s or 60s. And a "later in life" brude sounds like 70+ to me - whether a widow who has found new love, or a first-time bride. Neither of those "labels" strike me as fitting for a bride in her 30s. 

HumpyPuppy

TexasSmith:

I don't think any labels are necessary, including "smart." I don't think someone who waits is any smarter than someone who gets married young.

 

I specifically stated "smart for ME". I don't judge marriage at any legal age. However, I am fee to put whatever labels on myself as I choose.

almond1123

HumpyPuppy:

TexasSmith:

I don't think any labels are necessary, including "smart." I don't think someone who waits is any smarter than someone who gets married young.

 

I specifically stated "smart for ME". I don't judge marriage at any legal age. However, I am fee to put whatever labels on myself as I choose.

I have to agree and knew this was coming.  I don't think any of us that used the term "smart" thought, "oh those fools who marry in their 20's or gasp earlier."  I know if I would have done so it would have been a disaster.  So it was a smart move for me.

almostjones

04JaxBride:

i've never heard a bride called a "re-bride".  i don't really refer to my brides as mature or later in life.  they're brides.

This isn't really my convo, as I got married at 23 but I'm not sure why there is a need to label or distinguish based on life stage.  Brides are brides.

rayskit10

almond1123:

HumpyPuppy:

TexasSmith:

I don't think any labels are necessary, including "smart." I don't think someone who waits is any smarter than someone who gets married young.

 

I specifically stated "smart for ME". I don't judge marriage at any legal age. However, I am fee to put whatever labels on myself as I choose.

I have to agree and knew this was coming.  I don't think any of us that used the term "smart" thought, "oh those fools who marry in their 20's or gasp earlier."  I know if I would have done so it would have been a disaster.  So it was a smart move for me.

I think anyone who gets married before 30 should be called "child bride." You little child brides! 

dana92504

rayskit10:

almond1123:

HumpyPuppy:

TexasSmith:

I don't think any labels are necessary, including "smart." I don't think someone who waits is any smarter than someone who gets married young.

 

I specifically stated "smart for ME". I don't judge marriage at any legal age. However, I am fee to put whatever labels on myself as I choose.

I have to agree and knew this was coming.  I don't think any of us that used the term "smart" thought, "oh those fools who marry in their 20's or gasp earlier."  I know if I would have done so it would have been a disaster.  So it was a smart move for me.

I think anyone who gets married before 30 should be called "child bride." You little child brides! 

i think *anyone* that gets married should be called "dumb". suckahs! ;p

rayskit10

dana92504:

rayskit10:

almond1123:

HumpyPuppy:

TexasSmith:

I don't think any labels are necessary, including "smart." I don't think someone who waits is any smarter than someone who gets married young.

 

I specifically stated "smart for ME". I don't judge marriage at any legal age. However, I am fee to put whatever labels on myself as I choose.

I have to agree and knew this was coming.  I don't think any of us that used the term "smart" thought, "oh those fools who marry in their 20's or gasp earlier."  I know if I would have done so it would have been a disaster.  So it was a smart move for me.

I think anyone who gets married before 30 should be called "child bride." You little child brides! 

i think *anyone* that gets married should be called "dumb". suckahs! ;p

Especially to your ex! Ooooo ZING! Gotcha, child bride! 

Jena503

Well if she's going to label them like that, how about "former clients who I want to piss off"?

I was just shy of 29, but I'd be pretty ticked to be labelled that way.

Febbride04

HumpyPuppy:

I got married at 38. Had my kid at 40. I never think of the choices I made for me as "mature, old, etc.". For me, I consider it "smart" or "the right decision".

This (except, I was 39 when I got married.)

rayskit10

I emailed her a bunch of responses and comments from here and married life (screen names were removed to protect the innocent) and she said when she was getting married, she 1st heard these terms on the knot. the knotties were using them... i've been around a long time so that must have been after my knot days.