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Fetishes
How much would a fetish bother you? Do you have any of your own?
I recently started talking to a man who, it seems, has a foot fetish. Thoughts?
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Re: Fetishes
I think it would depend on it. BDSM? Not much problem with. Guy enjoying cross-dressing... ok that kinda bothers me a bit. Not sure why,it just does. My ex-fi was getting into that near the end of our relationship and no matter how much I tried, just could not get comfortable with it.
Foot fetish? That would be interesting but if it meant great foot massages I think I could handle
And yes, I have my own kinks
I'm pretty fetish-friendly. As long as it doesn't involve scat, there's not much I'm not willing to give a go.
For me, it's not the type of the fetish that gets tricky, but the depth of it. Without oversharing, I can say that BF and I have a lot of fun and a lot of variety, and we each have our kinks -- but there's not any one specific thing that we absolutely need to be present in order to get off. I would imagine that something like that, where one person is completely dependent and obsessed with one thing, would get tedious for me.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
I hooked up with a guy once that was super fetish friendly, and omg he freaked me out.. He had a huge foot fetish and asked me to wear my shoes. I don't know, but that was not okay with me; neither was asking me to be his gf whilst choking me. Needless to say I ran for the hills and never spoke to him again.
I have my own kinks. Not that they're very out there, but they turn me on. It's always interesting to tell the new guy I'm dating that I'm into exhibitionism and public sex. I usually get either a raised eyebrow in a good way or they turn and walk the other way. LOL.
Cross dressing would not be okay with me either!
Yeah this man I'm talking to has a foot fetish and wanted me to send him pics of my feet. I am terribly insecure about my feet (3 foot surgeries) and he think they're sexy so I'm kind of not bothered by this but I am bothered that I'm not bothered--does that make sense?
Totally makes sense. New territory, something you likely hadn't considered before. I'd just be honest with him -- let him know that you're not 100% sure how you feel or how comfortable you are with his fetish, but that you're not entirely closed off about it. I'm sure he'll understand. Maybe you won't mind indulging him, after all -- and maybe it just won't be for you.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
Just out of curiosity, why wouldn't cross dressing be ok? It's not something I'd get all hot and bothered over, but if someone wanted to, I wouldn't be bothered.
One of my good friends when I was in NYC was a straight guy with a thing for hair removal, hosiery and lingerie. He was a total hoot! We'd have competitions to see who got their legs smoother.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
I just don't think it would be something I could be comfortable with if I was sexually involved with the person. It was bad enough having to shave XH's back and having him be super picky and high maintenance.
The foot man mentioned something about shoe shopping--that I might be okay with!
Hmmm. This sounds like a shoe fetish AND a foot fetish.
This means you will be asked to wear ridiculous, towering heels, but get massages thereafter.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
Check please!
I think it depends on the fetish. A foot fetish would bother me because I DESPISE feet.
I like it a little rough sometimes but I don't have anything that I would consider a fetish.
I feel like you've never seen a wang inside a lace bodysuit.
It's impossible not to laugh, IMPOSSIBLE!
Yeah that's right my name's Yauch!
I HAVE!!! He used to share pics with me. It was very hard not to laugh. Very, very hard.
(p.s. how did I know we'd meet in this thread? John Laroquette.)
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
I have always leaned towards the fetish side of things. Though I do not find them necessary all the time I think they can be fun. But everyone has ones that work for them and ones that don't. Some of my fetishes are out there so I tend to be extremely open for other peoples. I do have some hard limits, like scat (ew), watersports (if you know what I mean), some edgeplay, and age play (ew). Otherwise I am mostly open, to each their own, you know?
Regarding crossdressers I find that most men I know that do, are straight, and amazing to hang out with.
That's pretty much my opinion on it, too. Something a little out of the vanilla that he enjoys, fine. Something he's fixated on and needs for satisfaction, not fine.
I am not well-versed in these - unless you mean either someone sucking on a cooked shrimp or shrimping on a boat as their job. I'm guessing it's neither.
/raises hand
would also like to know what a shrimp job is
Yeah that's right my name's Yauch!
lol
Yeah that's right my name's Yauch!