June 2008 Weddings
Casperdy
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Repost from ML...
I feel like this post sums up EVERYTHING that has made me insane in my marriage lately.
DH is reading it when he gets home tonight (he already agreed).
http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/61442103.aspx
Re: Repost from ML...
Learning that this is a guy thing and not a DH thing has probably helped save my marriage. In a way I'm glad I'm not the only one that struggles with it.
We' ve had the "This is REALLY important to me" talk. He helps more, but I've also learned to just let more stuff go.
Sister, I hear ya.
This is the Numero Uno (and thankfully, really the only major) problem in our marriage. I am a clean person. I am tidy, I am organized, and I don't feel like I'm living happily if I am amongst constant messiness. DH is a flat-out slob who has no issue leaving a pan of bacon grease sit on the stove for days until I do something about it.
I have tried to go on strike and see what happens. Does he pick up the slack? Hah! Our house goes to hell in a handbasket so fast your head would spin. Throw in Natalie's messes and it's just terrible.
I've tried the whole "I need help, this is important to me, please step up" speech. I have tried blaming his mother for doing everything for him. I have tried ignoring it. He will try for a while, but within two weeks or so he's right back to being a slob.
I don't know what to think about this being a "man" issue, because my father and brother are tidy men and my sister's boyfriend is a neat freak. I often feel like if he could just fix this one thing, our lives would be infinitely better, but it seems impossible.
I get that. My father and brother are very neat, anti-clutter. From what I hear so is Naylon's husband. I guess I'm just under the impression that very few men are like that, most are on the other end of the spectrum.
ETA: With my DH, I also blame his mother. Him and his siblings and father would just make messes all the live long day and his mother would clean up. When we got married he wouldn't even close the bread loaf or peanut butter jar, for crying out loud. Who just allows their children to learn these habits?!?!? Things will be far different for any sons I have.
Yup and yup.
Seriously, this crap results in fights regularly and it is really ALL we fight about. I guess I can't understand, why, from his end, he wouldn't just step up an eliminate the single major issue in our marriage. It baffles me.
My dad tends to be neat as well... he doesn't cook or do laundry, but I think he pulls his weight. And, the SECOND everyone finishes dinner, he starts the dishes and cleans the kitchen. Period.
DH has a mom issue too, as we know. She still babies him and only expects him to help with the heavy lifting.
Makes me a little nervous about making sure our kid doesn't turn out like DH in this one area.