Trouble in Paradise
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What an ASSY thing to say...
My aunt has cancer and is basically dying. However, we really don't know how long she has. She's been responding to chemo really well, etc. But still - she has pretty advanced bladder cancer that has spread.
Anyhow, my stepmother goes to a party last night. While there, a friend of hers says to her "Are you doing anything special for your sister for Christmas since this will probably be her last one?".
WTF?! Who says something like that????
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~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Re: What an ASSY thing to say...
People who have no brain/mouth filter. I'm sorry
I'll be praying for your aunt. My dad was diagnosed in 2007 with an advanced, aggressive cancer- 4 years later he's starting to go downhill, but we were originally told to say goodbye right after his diagnosis.
WTF?
That's horrible. I'm so sorry your family is going through this. Hopefully you have a lot of much more understanding and supportive people in your life.
But w/ my stepmother - she's very aware of this fact, she's doing everything she can for her sister, and to have someone say this - I just know it was a total slap in the face.
It's a major "open mouth, insert foot" kind of thing.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
That's the thing. I'm sure she knows the situation as well as anyone else, but she's also doing everything she can but she can't fix things. She is understandably upset at being reminded of that.
The friend doubtlessly meant nothing by it, but it's one of those things you steer clear of either way. Especially at a party.
Illnesses make people stupid. My SIL was sick last year and everyone thought she had luekemia (she has anemia). People said the stupidest things to her family members. I went to a wedding where they were all gossipping about it, not recognizing me. It was TERRIBLE.
Throat punch for sure.
WTF do you "gossip" about in regards to leukemia. It's not like she had the HIV.
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Imoan, it was disgusting. She was 13-years-old and people would talk about the cost of her treatments, whether she was going to die or not, how my ILs were handling it, etc. One comment I heard was something like "Well, they have 8 kids, it is a wonder that nothing bad has happened already."
Her doctor told her she needed to wear a mask in public during the winter time. She was even pulled out of school for 4 or 5 months. The weekend before she went back to school, she wanted to volunteer at a community dinner. MIL said it was okay, but that she needed to wear her mask. She was going from table to table filling water glasses and people wouldn't let her fill their glasses. They made another girl come by and pour their water. One of the organizers said "what is wrong with her, why is she even here? she's going to get people sick." No assshole, she's not. She's wearing the mask for her own protection, and she's volunteering to help her community. Shove it.