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WWYD Poll
I've posted before about my job situation, how I'm working two part-time nanny jobs and not making nearly as much as I was making before as a full-time nanny, but I love the main family I'm with and told them I'd stay for at least 6 months (which would be mid-Feb). I'm pretty sure they'd freak out if I left even if I stay for 6 months, and I also know for a fact that when we have a baby, they will let me bring the baby to work with me.
However...we are really really struggling financially with my greatly reduced salary, and I just got asked to interview for a full-time job which will pay more than 3 times what I'm currently making. Would you do the interview and take the job if it gets offered? It would technically not be quite 6 months since I started my current job (they want me to start Jan. 30 if I get the job).
I hate this situation, uggggg. I feel like no matter what I do it's wrong.
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ugh, that is so hard. Speaking from my own experiences only, having a nanny job with a family that you enjoy working for is much better (imho) than extra money. I had one job that paid really well but the family was literally BSC and it was awful.
It seems like bringing baby to work might play a big factor in things, is that your ideal plan? If so, I would ask new family at the interview how they feel about that.
Being loyal and dedicated to the family you nanny for is tough because it is such an innately personal job, but ultimately you need to do what is necessary for your family and if you really need the money they should understand.
GL!!
I think there's a lot between "you don't owe the family anything" and "yes, still interview and potentially accept the job." At the end of the day, you have to make sure YOUR family is secure and financially ok. I understand feeling like you owe them, and I think it's absolutely important to talk with them and make sure you give them as much time as you can, but ultimately you have to do what's best for you and your family.
I would interview and likely accept the job - consider the reverse; if, for some reason, they no longer needed a nanny, would they continue to pay you because they "owed" you? It's so easy for the line between personal and professional to blur, particularly when kids are involved, but it is still a job, and you are not a bad person for wanting one that better fits what you need.
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Think about it in terms of your own family, not theirs. If you were working at a job you loved but weren't making enough with less hours (ex: liquor store clerk) and were offered a job that you still loved, was a little more time consuming, but in the same field (wine selector at a fancy restaurant)- would you do it?
Plus, you need to look at where you would be in the future and what you really want. Do you want to work while having your own baby, or does it just sound good at the moment? How would maternity leave look if this was the option?
I know you love your families and I think it is great that you care for them- but it is a job, and you have to draw the line before you let seep in to what you want out of life.
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This. Exactly. You have nothing to lose by interviewing. You may find out the full time job isn't a good fit. You may love it. But you won't know if you don't try! And, ultimately, you have to look out for your family first. Try not to burn bridges along the way, and do what you can for your main nanny family. But take care of yourself!
I think you should honor your 6-month commitment to the first family, and let them know that you will be looking for a job that pays more money. I also think that you should meet with the new family to check them out.
It seems like with the type of job you have, your reputation would be very valuable and I would be worried about getting a reputation of being a flake by bailing on the commitment you made to the main family.
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I agree with this. And who knows, maybe you won't like them or something about the job won't fit, but it doesn't hurt to take the interview. GL!
A lot can happen between an interview offer and a job offer. You may not mesh, you may not be offered the job, you may not want the job, etc.
Interview then re-evaluate. Like PP, you need to do what is important for your family, and if they can't understand that, they aren't as fabulous as first believed.
I had a CW here that was very specialized in what he does, and was one of the experts in a specific type of field of GIS, but he got a job offer outside of that specialization that paid 3x as much, and he couldn't pass it up because it would greatly help support his family and give them a little more security. Our company was really bummed to lose him, but weren't willing to match, so he's gone.
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