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What caused my miscarriage.....

I just got off the phone with my doctor from Texas and they told me they just received the results from my blood test last week from my NT scan.  Apparently, the baby had Trisomy 13 and 18 which means it was inevitable the baby would not make it.  80% of babies born with this condition die within the first year.  

My doctor strongly recommended that we get genetic counseling before TTC again.  However, I think I am done.  Between the TTC and this, I don't think I can go forward down this road any longer.  

The miscarriage news wasn't too hard on me but this news is.  And the thought of Macy being an only child :( 

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Re: What caused my miscarriage.....

  • :( I'm so sorry, Kathy! :( ***hug***
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  • I'm so sorry for all you've been through.
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  • I am so so so so so sorry, Kathy.  The thought of what you are going through right now really breaks my heart.  You are a beautiful person and a wonderful mother to Macy.  I hope that, no matter what happens going forward, there are many many brighter days ahead for you.  I'm sending you lots of hugs from the other side of the globe.
  • I am so sorry.
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  • I'm sorry, Kathy (hugs).
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  • I'm so sorry Kathy.  Sending lots of T&P's your way.  (((hugs)))

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  • Kathy, I cried when I saw your post.  I am so sorry and I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better.  I can only hug you from far away (hug)
  • I'm am so sorry Kathy.  I wish I could give you big hugs right now.  I can't imagine how hard this is for you.  I can only partially relate, since Kennedy has T21, which is obviously much different than T13 or T18.  I'm going to send you a message on FB, since it's kind of personal and not something I'd post out in the open.  (((hugs)))
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  • Aww hun I am so sorry.  I am sure this is a lot to take in right now.
  • I am sorry you're having to deal with such devastating news! I have been thinking of you.
  • Once again Im sorry for your loss and now finding out this, my heart is aching for you : ( I would like to give you a hug as well
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  • Oh Kathy I am so so sorry:( Do what is best for you and your family right now. No need to even think about future decisions just yet.
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  • I am so sorry. (( hugs))
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  • Oh Kathy, I'm so, so sorry. I don't even know what to say. Take care of yourself.
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  • That is very tough.  I'm very sorry that you are dealing with this. Your daughter is beautiful and a true blessing from God.
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  • Kathy I am so so sorry. I know someone else who went through this but after delivery. She had twins, one with trisomy 18 (I think). I don't know if having a reason makes the process easier or harder, but I am thinking of you!!!
  • Thank you everyone for the support.  

    I am in a much better place today.  Yesterday was REALLY tough on me, actually last night was the toughest......laying in bed with nothing to do but letting my mind wonder......

    Anyway, I was able to do my research and there is a good chance this was a complete and total fluke.  I read the odds of recurrence is less than 1% unless there is a genetic precursor from my H or I, and even the then, the odds of it being hereditary are around 3% or something.  

    We are opting to send the baby to pathology once I actually do miscarry which should give us some answers.  

    But again, thank you :) 

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  • Kathy- I'm glad you are having abetter day today. I can't imagine how hard it would be to deal with that diagnosis. Keeping you and your  family in my prayers through this difficult time
  • Kathy I am so very sorry that you are going through this terrible awful experience.   I don't know what words to use.  I read this the day of and couldn't post on my phone.  I have been trying to figure out what to say since and now that I've got a computer in front of me I'm still at a loss.  I am glad to hear that you are not going to make a decision just yet and that you haven't given up.  You are such a positive person and you have such a positive vibe that this quest for Macy's sibling has got to happen somehow for you and your family. Thinking of you often and sending love!
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  • Kathy, I'm sorry for your loss and what you're going through. I hope that you continue to find good news and hope. And in the meantime, give that beautiful baby girl of yours an extra hug and hold on tight.
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  • I'm so sorry.  I can not imagine the turmoil.  Lots of prayers that you are at peace with your decision in the coming months. 
  • Kathy, I'm very sorry for your loss, but I hope the news continues to look up from here.
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