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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Grrrrr..playing the victim
Okay, this is dumb. Something happened last Thursday at work that is STILL chapping my @ss. Like, big time. I think if it were that ONE incident, I wouldn't have given it a second thought, but it is multiple incidents over and over with the same person..and now, I am in victim mode which is never a good place to be.
I need to be talked out of it. I have replayed the incident(s) over and over in my head and I know I can put the kapish on them eventually but when a person loses sleep over sh!t like this, there is a problem.
Do you ever find yourself in victim mode at work (or anywhere else) and how do you get out of it?
Re: Grrrrr..playing the victim
What if they are your supervisor? And that's the thing, I don't think this particular person IS my supervisor but she/he needs to control something and since I am newest and don't yet have the guts to tell her/him to STFU (not that I would do that anyway), she/he tends to get incredibly douchey.
Can you sit down with your actual supervisor and express your concerns about the individual who believes to be your supervisor?
That's a tough one. Most of the time, for me, it has been a co-worker, but not a superior or even quasi-superior. I finally got pretty curt with that co-worker in an email (after they had been that way with me for awhile), and basically told them to let me do my job as I saw fit. They didn't talk to me for a couple of weeks, which was a bit awkward since we are in the same department. The students noticed the tension, as well, and of course they asked about it.
Now, it seems, we're fine? We never really went over the issue but I think the person realized that I am more than competent and that people who share workspaces have to learn to work together.
I did talk to a superior about this issue to confirm my feelings weren't too off-base. Whether the superior said anything to my co-worker, I don't know. But it couldn't hurt for you to go to your direct supervisor to both make them aware that the situation exists and to feel better that you have said something.
That's a whole another issue...I am not really sure who my supervisor is. I know there have been a lot of complaints about said individual - a lot people refuse to one one on one meetings with this individual because of his/her behavior. This person should NOT ever ever ever be in management. Probably, the best way to handle it is to have a sit down, it just makes me feel sick to have to deal with them.
It is clearly a totally screwed up deal. Like I have said before, this is most definitely a "project" job.....