Trouble in Paradise
Dear Community,
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jeskarose
Joined on 05-14-2009
60 Points
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Unemployed husband driving me crazy?
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First post here!
My husband has been unemployed for a little over a month. We live in a small 1 bedroom apartment. I only work part-time due to going to school, so I'm here 4 days a week, and he is here all 7. I am the one who finds the jobs he applies for. I would like some alone time! I miss being able to come home from work and do my own thing. I miss simple things such as being able to watch something on tv. Or even just that silent time where no one is talking to me! I get so annoyed! If I go into our bedroom to watch TV or read a book he comes in and says "why are we separating family time?" I am going crazy here! I'm so grumpy all the time, I need ME time. What to do?!
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zitiqueen
Joined on 08-21-2003
In a land called Mars where the ladies smoke cigars
10,647 Points
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Tell him what you told us. Walla. |
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fiancee = vag ** fiance = peen ** Babies shouldn't be born with jobs ** **They're called first loves for a reason -- more are supposed to come after. You don't get a medal for marrying your prom date.** |
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feinicstin...
Joined on 12-30-2010
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Talk to him.
"Honey, I just need a few minutes of alone time to unwind after my day."
Done. |
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cmeinla
Joined on 12-03-2008
19,299 Points
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Why do you have to find the jobs he applies for?
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Interroban...
Joined on 10-17-2008
New England
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Tell him. Done. But I'd like to know why this man isn't taking charge of his own job search. |
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imoan
Joined on 10-31-2005
CT
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Please tell me you're going to law or medical school. |
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magsugar13
Joined on 03-14-2007
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I am the one who finds the jobs he applies for.
Really and your only problem is no alone time.......ok mommy |
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huber22
Joined on 07-29-2010
39,858 Points
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HELP! I want to lay around the house but my husband got there before me!
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srgw
Joined on 03-12-2010
South Seattle
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 jeskarose:First post here!
My husband has been unemployed for a little over a month. We live in a small 1 bedroom apartment. I only work part-time due to going to school, so I'm here 4 days a week, and he is here all 7. I am the one who finds the jobs he applies for. I would like some alone time! I miss being able to come home from work and do my own thing. I miss simple things such as being able to watch something on tv. Or even just that silent time where no one is talking to me! I get so annoyed! If I go into our bedroom to watch TV or read a book he comes in and says "why are we separating family time?" I am going crazy here! I'm so grumpy all the time, I need ME time. What to do?!
What is he doing with his days if you're finding the jobs he applies for?
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ashleyvc2
Joined on 09-03-2006
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srgw:
jeskarose:
First post here!
My husband has been unemployed for a little over a month. We live in a small 1 bedroom apartment. I only work part-time due to going to school, so I'm here 4 days a week, and he is here all 7. I am the one who finds the jobs he applies for. I would like some alone time! I miss being able to come home from work and do my own thing. I miss simple things such as being able to watch something on tv. Or even just that silent time where no one is talking to me! I get so annoyed! If I go into our bedroom to watch TV or read a book he comes in and says "why are we separating family time?" I am going crazy here! I'm so grumpy all the time, I need ME time. What to do?!
What is he doing with his days if you're finding the jobs he applies for?
Agreed. I don't think you alone time is the issue. I think he needs to get up and start looking for a job. I don't know what kind of "experience" he has, however right now he needs to be doing his own job search. Maybe he should be looking into career building seminars at the library and going to them. Networking out of the house. Being stuck in the house 7 days a week isn't a great way to find a job or gain new skills or marketable qualifications.
Does he expect you to go to the interviews for him too?
Also if you need some alone time in the house with out him hanging around just say so. Explain that you miss your alone quiet time at home and you would love to see him get out of the house so why doesn't he make arrangements to go do xyz on ____ night while you enjoy the couch and TV all to yourself for a little bit.
Communication is the #1 success factor in a relationship. |
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jeskarose
Joined on 05-14-2009
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WOW I thought this was a helpful community. At least that's wht I gathered from reading other posts. I wasn't expecting a hug and "it's all going to be aright" but maybe some support ad conversation. Except from one or two of you all I got was rude comments and judgements. No thank you I'll go somewhere else. |
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zitiqueen
Joined on 08-21-2003
In a land called Mars where the ladies smoke cigars
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What about the posts weren't helpful? This is a public message board that you chose to post on. You don't get to dictate what people can say in their comments or what they choose to comment on. You chose to state that your unemployed husband sits around all day not looking for jobs and that you have to find the jobs for him to apply for. If you didn't want people to comment on that, why did you post it in the first place?
It sounds like hand-holding and head-patting and "There there, everything will work out fine" is exactly what you were looking for. |
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fiizzlee = vag ** fiizzle = peen
** Babies shouldn't be born wit thangs **
**They're called first luddz fo' a reason -- mo' is supposed ta come after. Yo Ass don't git a medal fo' marryin yo' prom date. Unless yo ass is imoan. I aint talkin' bout chicken n' gravy biatch. Then yo ass git a all-expenses paid cruise ta tha Mediterranean n' yo ass git ta hook up Jared Padalecki on tha flight over while bustin yo' jammies. But still no medal.
Re: What a stupid DD
Well, now we know why she is in this situation!
She doesnt care that she is the mommy in the relationship and she is married to a lazy child as long as she has alone tiome with him. Maybe she should try timeout with him.
I guess she would rather continue being his mom!