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Mom wants to be friends on fb....grrr
Okay so I should say that I do not have a great relationship with my mom. Having her follow my life on fb is not something I want.
I've managed to avoid this for almost 2 years; but suddenly she has gotten anxious to "be friends" on fb again so she can "stay updated" on me with the girls coming etc. I've tried to just say I'll send her photos via email but she keeps bringing up facebook.
I'm friends with my dad, aunts, cousins.....so she keeps bringing up that other people can see my fb and she can't. I just keep saying I can't find her (and I technically have her blocked.....ha).
Anyone in this situation with a parent, in law, etc? Just so annoying since I need my distance from her.
ETA: My parents are divorced btw which also makes it hard to friend her since she could technically have access to my dad's profile if I commented on a photo of his etc. I'm not sure if he had her "blocked" if that would fully prevent it.
Facebook has just gotten so confusing!
Re: Mom wants to be friends on fb....grrr
My mom is blocked. Yes. That's right. I blocked my mother. Even when I wasn't friends with her she was commenting on things through mutual friends/family members so I just made it so she can't see me at all.
I was friends with her for about a month at one point and she commented on every. single. post. I made. If it was an inside joke with a friend, she wanted it explained to her. If I was being sarcastic, she took it seriously. In addition to the comments at least 50% of my posts also resulted in a phone call from her wanting to discuss it. I love my mom but, despite our seemingly close relationship from the surface, she is someone I keep at arms length for many reasons and I just couldn't take it anymore. She eventually asked me about it to my face and I was honest and told her I thought it was best if we weren't and she would be kept up to date about major things that involved her but that I didn't want her having free access to my whole life. She was pretty pissy about it for a while but hasn't brought it up since.
This is exactly what my mom would do to me. It has taken me 7-8 years of not living near her to build the kind of boundries I need with my relationship with her for my own health. Having her get herself involved in my life happenings through facebook would not be good.
Thanks for the input....I'm glad not the only one not willing to "friend" a parent but I'm sorry you were in a similar situation too!
This is my situation exactly! I am not close with my mom and haven't been since my parents divorced. I really don't want her to know what's going on in my life via FB. I blocked her for a while but she found me through a mutual friend. I told her that I'm not ok with having my parents as friends on FB and that pretty much ended that. I am however friends with cousins and my stepmom, who is like my best friend, and she knows this and has shocked me by leaving this topic alone.
It sounds like this won't work with your mom though and we don't have kids so things may change when that happens in the future too.
My mom sent me a friend request about 6 months ago. My mom is on FB on a name other than her own - her name is Mary R, she's on FB as Molly R. Technically I don't know anyone named Molly R, so I declined her request and made it so she couldn't request me again.
My facebook page is fairly private so she can't see most things I post.
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