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What Do I Do?
Long story short... my friend's birthday is 3 days before H's. She is having a birthday party the day after his. I RSVP'd maybe because I was waiting for H to tell me what he would like to do for his birthday. 2 days ago H tells me he would really like to go away for the weekend. So I contact my friend today to say that I was really sorry because I will not be able to go out to the bar for her birthday because I would be going out of town and then ask her if I could take her out just the two of us to make it up to her. Her response: "I figured. So even though you've known about my birthday event for weeks you chose to plan something and miss it."
I am at a complete loss because I am a firm believer that my H should come first and this also includes his birthday. I can understand her being upset, but I at least had the decency to try to plan another event with her.
So that being said, what does everyone think?
Re: What Do I Do?
I have a feeling your friend isn't married.
I'd say that two things I wouldn't miss in my close friends' life: wedding and funeral of their spouse/child/parent/themself.
I wouldn't stress over it. If she can't get over it then I'd say that she's not a true friend. Birthdays happen every year, she can move on. Enjoy your weekend with your husband and do not worry about your immature friend.
The only reason we are going out of town that weekend is because he has the following monday off- this way we can get away for an extra day without him having to take vacation. And the next available weekend wouldn't be until March (unfortunately)
And he is turning 25 and I am 23... We're beyond the whole 21st birthday thing.
I'm with you. We had my annual birthday dinner this year like 2 or 3 weeks after my birthday. I'm the one who planned it.
Why did you respond maybe before telling yh to figure out what he wated to do And why didn't you tell him you made tentative plans then for that date already? What the hell were you waiting for? 23 isn't far off from 21 even if you are married.
Your friend is an asss. That's what I think.
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