Um... what?

Pugs Not Drugs

So I've been on eharmony this past weekend since it's free communication.

One of my questions in the first round asks how long they've lived alone. My definition of "alone" means you pay your own bills and you don't live with your parents. Roommates count as living alone in my book. One of my matches said "never," so I immediately closed the match. 

He found me on facebook and shot me a message asking why, so I gave him my reasons. He then clarified that he thought alone meant by yourself and has always had roommates, so we talked for a while. But this morning I feel so weird about it all... am I overreacting? He said he found me googling my first name, dog's name and my city... so weird.

WWYD?

DakotaDangerDog

I think that's super creepy that he hunted you down like that, buuut that's just me.

kellandragon

I think it would depend on the vibe I get from him... Does he seem creepy stalker-ish or does he seem more like a romantic guy that got creative to find someone he really likes?

LandOBiscuit

I think it's weird he searched for you like that (although you can pretty much find anyone in just 1 click) but I also think you assumed too much. For me, living alone means 0 roomate so if I were in his situation, I would have answered the same thing.

calle28

LandOBiscuit:

I think it's weird he searched for you like that (although you can pretty much find anyone in just 1 click) but I also think you assumed too much. For me, living alone means 0 roomate so if I were in his situation, I would have answered the same thing.

Ditto on both counts.

NinjaPaants

I also think it is super weird he stalked you out like that. 

Living alone to me means no roommates too.  

CarrotsMakeMeFat

give him a chance. I also think living alone means no roomates

pdx18

I think the stalking is super creepy. I think in the future probably just some clarity around your question would be best. Maybe run them by someone before you send them to make sure they don't sound ambiguous. In this case I think you inadvertently dodged a bullet. It would be one thing if he had a way to contact you (either through the site-I know that isn't possible with eharmony- or you had given your telephone number or something) and reached out. But this is some definite stalking. 

kjewell

I'm a little creeped out that he hunted you down to find out why you closed communication.  I would beware of that one.

SpanishMandi

While I agree with stalker dude that living alone means that you are the only person living at your place of residence, I don't like that he went a bit nuts trying to ond you gain.  I'd be wary if I were you.

Pugs Not Drugs

Fair enough. I wish I could clarify on the questions, but eharmony doesn't let you clarify on the first round of questions. I suppose I could keep communication open if someone says "never" and in the second round of questions ask for clarification.

He did ask me on a date at the end of our conversation and I said that I need to recharge my batteries after the holidays. What I really meant was, "I need an escape plan from your stalker azz."

ClaireDunphy

Pugs Not Drugs:

So I've been on eharmony this past weekend since it's free communication.

One of my questions in the first round asks how long they've lived alone. My definition of "alone" means you pay your own bills and you don't live with your parents. Roommates count as living alone in my book. One of my matches said "never," so I immediately closed the match. 

He found me on facebook and shot me a message asking why, so I gave him my reasons. He then clarified that he thought alone meant by yourself and has always had roommates, so we talked for a while. But this morning I feel so weird about it all... am I overreacting? He said he found me googling my first name, dog's name and my city... so weird.

WWYD?

WTF.

That is NUTS. Danger Will Robinson!