Do you call if you're going to be late? and other pet peeves

LadyMadrid08

So if I know I'm going to be more than 10-15 minutes late somewhere I will call to give whoever I'm meeting a heads up.  It annoys me to no end when other people do not as courteous to me.  I have a friend who was supposed to be here at 2.  It's now 2:30 and I need to walk the dogs soon so I called to see if she was about to be here.  She answered the phone and said she's so sorry and she's getting dressed now.  I just don't believe it.  Half an hour after the time she's supposed to be here and she's just now getting dressed and didn't think calling me to let me know was a good idea.  She lives an hour from here.  She knew a long time ago that she was going to be late!  

Anyone else this picky about time issues or is it just me?  What other pet peeves do you have? 

elenetxu

I hate it when people are seriously late and don't call. DH's cousin is the worst offender. We once left without him to go to Burgos because I was so terribly POed. He said he'd be at our place in a half hour so I made a crappy lunch to eat really quickly. After an hour I was furious. We got about 1/2 hour south and called to ask where we were.

Avion22

I will call or text if I think I'm going to be even one minute late.    I'm chronically early, so showing up on time for me feels at least 5 minutes late.  I hate it when people don't show up when they say they will, ESPECIALLY when they don't call or text to say they're on their way.   

MintChocoChip

It depends.  In Israel people were always late so it wasn't an issue if I was, even though I was always early.  It was annoying that everyone was late but it was more of a cultural thing so I accepted it.

I am perpetually early and it's often embarassing.  XH and I once showed up to a party and the host hadn't even showered yet!  Now that I'm dating, I try to be about 5 minutes late so that I'm not awkwardly standing around for my date. 

kelly321

This is also my pet peeve. DH used to be pretty bad about punctuality, and it led to a couple of fights, so a couple of years ago he made a New Year's resolution to be better about it, and since then has done a really good job. It really ticks me off when I adjust plans for people who say they're coming at a certain time and then they don't, though. We have problems with punctuality with our nanny, which is partially my fault because at the beginning I said I was "flexible" with the times she came. I meant that I didn't mind whether we set the starting time as 9, 9:30, or 10, but she apparently thought I meant I don't care when she comes. I've tried having conversations with her about it, but it's so frustrating I've given up. We're finding a new nanny when we come back from the States next fall (not worth it to find one for the 2 months left in her contract now). It's something that annoys me in friends but is unacceptable in employees.

dulcemariamar1

I always text if I am going to be than 10 mins. late. I dont mind waiting for people, if it is indoors and I am sitting. I hate when you decide to meet up with somebody and you are stuck standing there for a long time.

 

jldittber

I'm always on time or early and get annoyed if someone is more than 10 or 15 mins late w/out calling or texting too!

My biggest peeve though is noise!  Late night parties, blaring music past like 10, garage bands...can't stand noise! 

FayeD

I'll call or text.

I'd be pissed at a friend as well. Going to be over 1-1/2 hours late? Heck ya, you deserve a call. Especially since you have an infant. It's hard work being ready, not being in the middle of a feeding time or nap, etc. She was completely inconsiderate of you.

ukyankee

I'm also perpetually early and HATE when people are late.  I have decided that I will just leave if someone is more than 20-30 minutes late and doesn't call (though I give a bit of allowance for people coming on the tube if i know there are problems...but not too much).  I would have just gone and walked the dog...if she showed up and I wasn't there, well, that's her issue and not mine.

pokepoke27

Don't even get me started. Where I used to work, the MANAGER was never less than 10 minutes late. Once he was an hour late and never bothered to call me. Half an hour after I was supposed to go home I finally called him and told him if he wasn't there by x time I was going to close up the store and leave. 

ktkl09

I'm a perpetually early person and hate when people are late! I always call if I know I'll be late, even 5 minutes.

DH has a problem with being late, he always underestimates how much time it takes to get somewhere. If he says "10 min", I always ask "Is that a real 10 minutes or 10 minutes in Pablo's time?". I usually addd 10-15 minutes onto "his" time. This is so suprising since he's SWISS!

I find being late to be disrepectful. 

LadyMadrid08

Ugh, thank you sane people! I guess I just wanted to feel validated in my annoyance.  In her defense (kind of) she does have a 12 month old and is 2 months pregnant so she has a lot going on, BUT I still feel like she could have very easily picked up the phone to let me know.

 Sorry I posted and ran. I decided to walk the dogs and get some shopping done.  My friend got here around 4.  

FayeD

LadyMadrid08:

Ugh, thank you sane people! I guess I just wanted to feel validated in my annoyance.  In her defense (kind of) she does have a 12 month old and is 2 months pregnant so she has a lot going on, BUT I still feel like she could have very easily picked up the phone to let me know.

 Sorry I posted and ran. I decided to walk the dogs and get some shopping done.  My friend got here around 4.  

Which side, to you, does it seem to fall on - parent of baby so knows better than to leave a mom hanging, or just had a rare moment but would usually be the type to call?

LadyMadrid08

FayeD:

LadyMadrid08:

Ugh, thank you sane people! I guess I just wanted to feel validated in my annoyance.  In her defense (kind of) she does have a 12 month old and is 2 months pregnant so she has a lot going on, BUT I still feel like she could have very easily picked up the phone to let me know.

 Sorry I posted and ran. I decided to walk the dogs and get some shopping done.  My friend got here around 4.  

Which side, to you, does it seem to fall on - parent of baby so knows better than to leave a mom hanging, or just had a rare moment but would usually be the type to call?

I know she's not the type to call as she was this way before her naby was born and when I called yesterday her baby was napping so she wasn't busy chasing him around. I guess I feel she is a mom and should know what it's like but mostly I feel it's a common courtesy issue. That's not to say there is never going to be a time when I get caught.up and forget to call but it will be the.exception, not the norm.