I've been such an idiot. Filing papers today.

jaime ma famille · January 2012

My Christmas was beyond horrible.

My poor son was hurt by my H again, on Christmas eve. While driving to Christmas eve mass my son said, "Mommy I have to tell you something..." It was heartwrenching. My H grabbed my son's face earlier that day while he was yelling at him, and my son's cheek was sore from it. H admitted to it, and said, "I apologized to him and talked to him about it, it's fine." He also called me a drama queen for getting so upset over it. Then, he called my son over and said, "I aplogized to you didn't I? Why did you have to go and tell Mommy about it?"

I told him his choices were to leave the house or I was getting a PFA to make him leave. He needs to be far away from the kids. He's refusing to leave, so I'm going to the lawyer today with a check (my family had to help me come up with the money) and I'm filing all the necessary paperwork. He's going to make this very difficult and I'm beyond terrified right now. I haven't been able to sleep. I'm so anxious. I have to work, but I want to be with my kids right now. I just don't understand all of these feelings I'm having. I wish I could fast forward to when everything is over and I'm in a new place with just my kids....to be away from him.

I'm also really worried about finances and how I will be able to afford everything. With H away from the kids and not being allowed around them, they will have to be in full time day care, which they've never been before....so I don't know how I'm going to come up with the money. I'm hoping child support will help - right?

Karma1969 · January 2012

He will probably have to pay half of daycare costs. You can also see if you qualify for state aid. Try calling a domestic violence shelter in your area and see if they have advocates that can guide you through the process. Good luck. You are doing the right thing.